do you feel like nobody listens?

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The whole point was to joke about how people systematically misunderstand you because they can't be bothered to pay attention to more than a few keywords and interpolate ad libitum, usually to put in your mouth whatever best suits their interests.

So I'm afraid I've never seen a triangle wearing pants or a skirt.

Here's an example that's not born of malice (although doctor-to-patient condescension might have something to do with it):

Sorry for the TMI, but... I sometimes have a problem with long-term excessive menstrual bleeding. For you guys who don't know, menstruation/period occurs for about 3-7 days in a cycle about about 28 days. (So, for example, bleed for three days, don't bleed for 25 days, repeat.)

I went to the doctor for it. This conversation takes place in September because I'm a procrastinator.

Me: I've been having menstrual bleeding for about two months straight.
[Doctor is typing on her laptop while I talk, and something about her face suggests the mental gears are turning but she's getting confused.]
Doctor: Wait, so, when was your last menstrual period?
Me: Um, the one I'm on now started in July.
Doctor: You haven't had a period since July?
Me: I haven't NOT had a period since July!
[Doctor is still confused]

Apparently, it's far more common for people to go to the doctor because their period hasn't started, rather than because their period started and wouldn't stop. She heard me give most of the same words as a common problem, so she thought that's what my problem was.

That's what I'm used to, though, of course, not about menstruation. I have a really hard time, because repeating myself feels disrespectful, and just because they can't be bothered to process what I say doesn't mean they don't detect the repetition; in fact, they usually get fed up with it.

I have people just assume I'm stupid all the time because they misunderstand what I'm trying to say, just like you, Spiderpig. Often it's because they aren't smart enough to actually understand what it is that I'm talking about, not my choice of words.

Many of these people are those that assume that they themselves are quite intelligent, and are very arrogant about it as well.

And I know many people have had the same trouble with doctors, because they often don't listen and/or assume the patient is not intelligent enough to accurately describe or understand their feelings. It's really infuriating.

The rule seems to be, "Whenever you can afford to treat someone like an idiot, do it so they don't think too much of themselves and challenge your status".

Sometimes I do feel like the people around me are ignoring me and giving me the cold shoulder, but that's just because they aren't smart enough to understand me. The only thing that matters is that I listen to myself.

I have to admit that I wonder if people are not listening because of my communication skills while in person. If just do it ans show them, I've heard, "Why didn't you just say so." But, I've heard things on recording that make me doubt my ability to communicate verbally in a proper or receivable fashion.

Yeah. Sometimes, it happens i can feel like nobody understands me fully & i hate that.

Half the time. I have to YELL OUT LOUD so they can goddamned listen to me sometimes.
Sometimes I just gave up, let them do whatever they think; have a mistake, and blame me or themselves for it. And I refuse to 'argue' or further discuss with someone if that's the case.

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