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23 Feb 2016, 12:22 am

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Despite any possible male privilege, boasting how smart you are while male is a good way to get beaten up till they damage your brain so you're no longer smart at all.


I think that's true, but you have a little more wiggle room for what most other people would perceive as boasting. That's the impression I get anyway.


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23 Feb 2016, 4:25 pm

What I gather from reading LaetiBlabla's posts is that she is a true blue aspie with a high affinity for detail and precision.



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23 Feb 2016, 4:54 pm

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What I gather from reading LaetiBlabla's posts is that she is a true blue aspie with a high affinity for detail and precision.

I can believe that. But, if a person has a known communication issue, it would stand that they wouldn't blame others for not understanding or denigrate them.


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25 Feb 2016, 12:14 pm

zkydz wrote:
I can believe that. But, if a person has a known communication issue, it would stand that they wouldn't blame others for not understanding or denigrate them.


I do not blame and have never blamed or denigrated you or anybody for not understanding . Please, where do you get this from again?

With regards to my childhood's "communication issues", I am even infinitely grateful for the many people who trusted me because they saw behind the 7-year-old girl, not able to communicate, a little girl with potential. Those are exceptional people who helped me overcome my difficulties (even when unaware of this diagnosis), with their every day self-investment.

I thank those people, they gave me trust and i think trust is the main thing an autist needs to go further.

And for those who did not understand, or would not understand me now, i have never "blamed" or "denigrated" them and will never do. Misunderstanding is typical human. There is nothing to be angry about.



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25 Feb 2016, 1:23 pm

LaetiBlabla wrote:
zkydz wrote:
I can believe that. But, if a person has a known communication issue, it would stand that they wouldn't blame others for not understanding or denigrate them.


I do not blame and have never blamed you or anybody for not understanding or denigrate my "communication issue". Please, where do you get this from again?

Well, here:

LaetiBlabla wrote:
I think Autism is disabling, high IQ is also disabling.


You say a high IQ is disabling. And nothing has ever been put forth by you that clarifies that.

LaetiBlabla wrote:
High IQ is disabling while around with other people with lower IQ.
I tell you from long experience.
You can understand it only if you have high IQ.
Having high IQ feels like if you were living in the middle of monkeys who laugh at you when you speak, because you do not say "hoo hoo hoo hoo". Then you have to translate your language into "hoo hoo s" ...exhausting.

Also, you learn to not care about insults like those above. You learn to have mercy for others' misunderstanding.
Here you equate others who do not understand you with monkeys.

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^^i simply present my thoughts, and my feelings. You should not feel aggressed when you do not agree with somebody, it's bad for your happiness and it doesn't help you understand because you are on the defensive mode. You insult me because you take everything like a personal attack.
No, I think that you do not express yourself well and all I have tried to do is let you understand that many people will have difficulty with the elliptical way you express yourself. You are the one who said these things and then blamed me for not understanding, so, are you call me a monkey as well?

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For example, here you say "you said I "twisted" your meaning".
This is not true i said : "you misunderstood or distorted what i say." (what again is happening here)
Here you chose to take something out of context and then tried to use the wording to invalidate the actual meaning.

So, yeah, I think you have communication issues and should recognize it. I have to do the same. But you need to stop blaming everybody who doesn't get your ideas. Accept some responsibility that you are the person who is trying to get an idea across. Blaming others will not help.

So, with people who have incoming communication issues, your thought process is, as you say, "Having high IQ feels like if you were living in the middle of monkeys who laugh at you when you speak, because you do not say "hoo hoo hoo hoo".

And, you specifically state, "Then you have to translate your language into "hoo hoo s" ...exhausting.."

So yeah, I can honestly say you come across as arrogant. I can honestly say that if your attitude is that having to "translate your language into "hoo hoo s"" is for the general masses, no wonder you have difficulty.

I have the same difficulties. But, I don't blame others for it.


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25 Feb 2016, 1:52 pm

zkydz wrote:
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zkydz wrote:
I can believe that. But, if a person has a known communication issue, it would stand that they wouldn't blame others for not understanding or denigrate them.


I do not blame and have never blamed you or anybody for not understanding or denigrate my "communication issue". Please, where do you get this from again?

Well, here:

LaetiBlabla wrote:
I think Autism is disabling, high IQ is also disabling.


Sorry, this is not blaming or denigrating:
"i think" = this is my thoughts
"is disabling" = causing adaptation problem

Blaming , definitions:
- An act of attributing fault; censure; reproof.
- Responsibility for anything deserving of censure

Denigrating, definitons:
- To speak damagingly of; criticize in a derogatory manner; sully; defame:
- To treat or represent as lacking in value or importance; belittle; disparage:



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25 Feb 2016, 2:36 pm

Looks like it's time to summon good ol' ...

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25 Feb 2016, 4:28 pm

Words mean things.



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25 Feb 2016, 7:46 pm

Spiderpig wrote:
Looks like it's time to summon good ol' ...

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I really love that one. :lol:

Maybe I should carry a sharp knife with me from now on, may come in handy.



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25 Feb 2016, 8:32 pm

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Maybe I should carry a sharp knife with me from now on, may come in handy.


I never carry a sharp knife with me.
Because carrying a sharp knife is very likely to hurt yourself.



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26 Feb 2016, 1:46 am

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I have a low IQ and my adaptive skills are terrible, too. Thus, there isn't a discrepancy for me, personally.

I am convinced that I am intellectually handicapped but both my psychiatrist and case manager disagree. :(



Same, i preformed very poorly on specific areas of my I.Q, Verbal, Working Memory, and Information Processing speed was all either below average or in low average but my Visual And Spatial is top notch.

I also have problems preforming tasks with multiple steps in sequence.

I cant count how many times i mess up making Kraft Dinner.


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26 Feb 2016, 3:27 am

I'm afraid I don't get the joke SpiderPig, can you explain?


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26 Feb 2016, 5:40 am

ZombieBrideXD wrote:
JakeASD wrote:
I have a low IQ and my adaptive skills are terrible, too. Thus, there isn't a discrepancy for me, personally.

I am convinced that I am intellectually handicapped but both my psychiatrist and case manager disagree. :(



Same, i preformed very poorly on specific areas of my I.Q, Verbal, Working Memory, and Information Processing speed was all either below average or in low average but my Visual And Spatial is top notch.

I also have problems preforming tasks with multiple steps in sequence.

I cant count how many times i mess up making Kraft Dinner.


i used to be like this as well. Only getting ready to go to school was extremely difficult.
My parents have helped me a lot by writing lists. Now i have lists for everything!
1 get up
2 take off your pyjama
3 go to the bathroom
4 (...)

It may look stupid, but it is not, it is helpful, efficient and you are much more relaxed and confident. You are no more worried about "will i make it on time?".

Just sit and write a chronological list.

What is still difficult for me is that i can not plan long-term objectives. Because there is so much unknown that it seems to me impossible to plan.



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27 Feb 2016, 11:14 pm

This very interesting to here your guys experiences, thanks for your replies


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04 May 2016, 5:46 pm

I know I'm late to the scene, but I was just recently diagnosed and joined. I was DX'd with HFA.

I also have a high I.Q., but can't seem to hold a job. Ironically, I made it through the Army fine with little problem. I believe due to the structure. Same uniform, time, places. Each day was very repetitive and structured, I knew what was going on and when. I got injured and had to get out, and since then my life has just gone down hill. I am 30, and can't hold a job. I just hate leaving the house, honestly.

But, at least now I have a starting place with this diagnoses.



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10 May 2017, 1:50 pm

zkydz wrote:
LaetiBlabla wrote:
I think Autism is disabling, high IQ is also disabling.
OK...High IQ is disabling? How can that be?

As for the adaptive skills, I really suck at that. And the ability to adapt to changing circumstances are getting worse. Here is a litany of things I heard growing up:
"You ain't got a lick of sense."
"If you're head weren't screwed on, you'd lose it."
"What makes you think that's ok?" (What ever that may have been at any given time up to this very day)
"You got book learnin' but no common sense."
"Do you ever stop and think?"
"Stop being silly!"

I'm sure there were many more.


I had a personal favorite as my Grandfather always said, "Boy, you are slower than fog off s**t on a frosty morning!"
Granddaddy had a real way with words. :lol:


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