Joined: 30 Jun 2018 Age: 72 Gender: Male Posts: 6,601 Location: Indiana
27 Jul 2018, 9:51 pm
If you don't want to get married and have kids, there is nothing that is stopping you. It is a free country. But I believe someone with Asperger's can get married and have kids. I am an Aspie and have been married around 45 years with 2 children and 4 grandchildren. My wife is an NT, an extreme extrovert. It works. Matching an introvert and an extrovert personality blends together. My strengths balance her weaknesses and vice versa. It is like yin and yang.
Another married father of three here. Second marriage for me. First was a disaster for many reasons. This one thankfully will be mutually "until death do us part".
My wife is NT but shy and she needs a lot of alone time like I do. When the kids are in bed, we scatter to "our corners" to recharge from the day, etc. We still communicate of course but probably a lot less than is typical. 17 years strong.
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AQ-43 (32-50 indicates a strong likelihood of Asperger syndrome or autism). EQ-14 out of 80 Rdos: Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 173 of 200 Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 39 of 200 You are very likely neurodiverse (Aspie)
Joined: 3 Jan 2016 Posts: 175 Location: Central California
05 Aug 2018, 7:49 pm
I don't feel the same way. I look forward to marrying a loving woman and raising my children on a ranch in the countryside. I used to think I didn't like kids, but then I got new cousins that are 4 yrs, 2 yrs, 3 months, and a 2 month old nephew and interacting with them comes quite naturally to me.
Joined: 5 Dec 2017 Gender: Female Posts: 425 Location: the TARDIS
08 Aug 2018, 5:54 pm
I've been married for 26 years, and we have two children. I think having them nine years apart was immensely beneficial for me, though not planned, as ONE child was very disruptive all on his own. I don't think I could have managed two little ones at the same time.
I love my boys more than I can say, but the challenges were significant.