How do NT's perceive you?

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It depends on the situation definitely. If not at work, people think I'm young, naive, cute, inexperienced, etc. Even at work that happens at times, but if it is a project I am on then they find me cold, impersonal, intimidating, arrogant, pushy, abrasive, etc. I don't use platitudes and I don't show emotion at all (unless someone startles me and then it's completely out of line with what happened). In real life, my friends are highly intellectual and eccentric so they don't chit chat and neither do I or my dh. If I happen to get around people like that, they think I am odd, but because of the rest of my appearance and actions, I think they put it down to the first set of opinions.

People generally love me or hate me. Their reactions to me often shock me.

I think more NTs find me boring to talk to, weird, nervous, geeky and quiet

I think they perceive me exactly like they perceive any other piece of furniture in the room.

I didn't know that. I'm also quite happy talking to younger kids, often because I'm into things that they are as well such as Doctor Who and nintendo DS, etc. Also younger kids don't judge me as weird so I'm happier in their company. It's just my own age group I seem to have difficulty with.

Yeah, the stuff I've read actually said older and younger. (Can't remember what it was in...maybe The Complete Guide to Asperger's... that I'm reading right now, but it was someone who's actually supposed to be an expert on AS saying that.)

Well that's interesting thanks for letting me know, another thing I do that's possibly due to aspergers. I wonder if it will last my whole life, I'm 20 now.

I think that is a pretty typical reaction by NT women to aspie women. I've never had a nasty reaction by a man. But, I'm seldom in any social situation where I'm not involved in doing an activity I enjoy.

I'm not sure what that's going to translate into as I get older. I'm 30 now ( ) and am only around people who are at least 5 years old or younger than me at work, so I have no idea if I'd do any differently with people my age or not. I suspect it probably makes less of a difference as I get older, but I'm not sure.

I think Tony Attwood in that book gave explinations for why we probably do this, but I can't remember them exactly.

Some strangers think I am someone who receive backdoor deliveries late at night.

I honestly have no idea how I'm perceived by NTs in general, other than to generalise with "odd", "geeky" and "nice guy".

People have commented on my particularly dry sense of humour in the past, too.

I have never got on particularly well with people in my own age group - for some reason I've always felt more comfortable with people older or younger than myself (I feel far more energised and eager to get up and do stuff when my young cousins are visiting, for instance).

How should I know? I think some people have a tendency to see different sides of me than others.

Mostly, they perceive me as "shy","quiet", and "nice guy".
I like to be with young kids, I have a 4 year old brother, and I like to spend time with him. I don't really know any older person.

As a nerdy, absentminded, tortured prick at worst and at best, an intelligent, assertive and experienced ambitious gentleman at best.

I really don't how Nt perceive me, and this is a great part of the socialising problem.

Surprisingly, people now perceive me as smart and nice. I don't think people perceived me as being a very nice person when I was growing up. Later, when I first went out in the world, they probably thought of me as shy, insecure and likely not material for spectacular success, even though they did say I was nice. It is only in the last ten years or so that I have been able to combine the two attributes.

Exactly! I've been saying that since I was 6 years old. People liking me at first is hard on me - that's when they invite me to things that I dread.