What happened to the thread...

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...posted yesterday regarding someone's views on diagnosed vs. self-diagnosed?

It had some interesting points raised; I hope it wasn't closed just because someone flamed and insulted me for no reason thereby embarrasing themselves.

Real aspies don't get embarassed.

I get embarrassed

Me too. It's a human thing, not a non-Aspie thing. Get real.

I know.
You are too easy.
edit: i don't get embarrased though. It seems to me to be a waste of time.
Pointless.

Logically, it seems to me to be a waste of time as well. But I can't help it. I think it's the same with anyone; they know it's usually pointless, but they get embarrassed anyway. It's annoying either way

My 'theory of mind' is so poor i cannot comprehend embarrassment.
It seems to me to be something to do with shame, guilt and a lack of self-esteem.
But like i say, i have no idea. It's no good for me to even try to understand it.

Im still laughing at the 'Get Real' comment.
I did not know aspies said such things, what does it mean? Is it an NT thing?

I don't really know what 'get real' means, it's probably mainly an NT thing but I don't know. I've definitely heard it used before though, I just don't really know what it means.

Jake,

Get over yourself! Frankly, I didn't and don't care. NOTHING new was said there!

Steve

I’ve only felt embarrassment a couple of times in the past; mainly in primary school. Everything else I experienced that I felt should have produced embarrassment brought forth something that’s an equivalent to shame, something that is totally out of place for the situation and something that felt close to fear.

I don’t understand the “meaning” of self-esteem and that lovely word “confidence”.

"Get real" means, uh.... It's like that lovely saying "'...pull up your socks!'" Ah...they are? I think I'm real....

*SHRUG* It's a confusing place "out there".

I usually get embarrassed about things that other people wouldn't, and things that would embarrass others don't seem to have that affect on me. I think it's mainly since I worked out I had a lot more problems with communicating that I had previously thought. I definitely get embarrassed about things though. Although a lot of Aspies probably experience it in different ways or not at all.

Yes.
Self-esteem i used to think was just a meaningless term used to give people ( you, me) a reason to feel bad about themselves. I am still not quite sure.
But when i feel good, for no reason, then i think my self-esteem is high.
If i am feeling bad, for no reason, then it is due to poor self-esteem.
I think there may be a circular argument here, but i am not going to think too much about it.

Anyway, confidence is easier.
I can understand that. It is just being aware that you are able to perform a specific task at an unconscious level.

I need more confidence apparently. Don't know where I'm going to get it from though.

Confidence is uh...can't you feel, or better yet, be full of confidence yet you're completely unable to perform said task?

I understand when you know you can do something...but people still unholster their confidence (verbally) when they've no chance of doing said task.

Man it's a confusing world out there, I can see why I don't put much thought into these...uh, what are they called exactly?

E: Actually, I think some of these are called "figures of speech". That means absolutely nothing to me....

If you are confident about doing a task, but are completely unable to do it, then you are stupid ( or have just made an accident, error, mistake).

To be confident about doing something completely new to you is nonsensical.
But with practise once you have done the task a few times and were successful, then you will feel confident next time you have to do it.

So they're just stupid...I always think the best of people, i.e., I'm the idiot for not understanding them....

Well, this has been enlightening.