Assuming others know what you're talking about

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16 May 2016, 5:09 pm

I have had an inestimable number of conversations like this--by the time I get to the end of them I realise the other person hasn't been following me at all because I left out the starting point of my thought train. SO many times this has happened to me.


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16 May 2016, 8:38 pm

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Oh yes, I do this all the time when I am talking. I assume they know everything about what I am talking about and so I tend to leave out important details because I think "duh, they already know them!" Even though they have no idea about what I am talking about.


That's It! That's exactly what I was trying to say.


I'm glad I was able to say what you were trying to say! :)


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17 May 2016, 10:01 am

I tend to overexplain. I believe my staff see me as the first guy in this Animaniacs parody:
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18 May 2016, 1:48 am

Yes, I do this all the time! I also often assume people know my intention behind saying something when they don't. For example, the other day I said something to my brother-in-law that was sarcastic, but he thought I was serious about it. But when I said it, it didn't occur to me that he might not realize I was joking. It seems like other people know how to convey to others whether they are joking or not, while I still haven't figured it out.



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18 May 2016, 3:04 am

lissa1212 wrote:
Yes, I do this all the time! I also often assume people know my intention behind saying something when they don't. For example, the other day I said something to my brother-in-law that was sarcastic, but he thought I was serious about it. But when I said it, it didn't occur to me that he might not realize I was joking. It seems like other people know how to convey to others whether they are joking or not, while I still haven't figured it out.


I can't comment on this. I don't know how many times I've felt stupid because someone's said something sarcastic and I'm the only one that didn't pick up on it.

Today at work, a colleague was carrying on about how friendly a co-worker of ours was (and he's not friendly at all. He NEVER talks to anyone!) and I was surprised my colleague felt this way, until he told me he was being sarcastic.

It still gets me now and again.


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18 May 2016, 6:13 am

Yep absolutely, all the time...
Its so frustrating that sometimes I feel like giving up talking to people all together. To be honest, to me its like a role reversal of when I misunderstand someone who's being sarcastic.



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18 May 2016, 8:43 pm

Often, the clue that someone is being sarcastic is meant to be that what they're saying is stupid.
However, I hear people saying stupid things all the time. How am I supposed to know when they're actually being stupid, and when they're only pretending? :?



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19 May 2016, 12:37 pm

I often act like this, and as a result most people don't understand me.


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19 May 2016, 12:39 pm

Kuraudo777 wrote:
I often act like this, and as a result most people don't understand me.


I understand you Kuraudo! :o


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19 May 2016, 4:04 pm

YippySkippy wrote:
Often, the clue that someone is being sarcastic is meant to be that what they're saying is stupid.
However, I hear people saying stupid things all the time. How am I supposed to know when they're actually being stupid, and when they're only pretending? :?

Yeah got your back on that one!! !
Sarcasm I find is easy to tell if it makes no logical sense... But saying that when there is an element of logical sense in it, I become as blind as a cave dweller....
For some reason most NT's I know seem to think it is funny confusing the pants out of someone????? Grrrrrr.....lol



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19 May 2016, 4:06 pm

I am often sarcasm blind, particularly since I don't happen to like sarcasm and find it extremely mean.


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