When would The One come? A question unanswered...

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Something every guy wants most of the time is to date a very beautiful girl. How long did I have this problem for? The answer is simple: OVER FIVE YEARS. I know it sounds like a long time which it really is don't get me wrong!

What I've been trying my best to do is to NOT expect it. It's been the most challenging thing I've ever done in my entire life. And to make things worse having autism is not helping me either because that will limit how well I get along with the one or people in general. Do you guys have any advice for me on how to find the one, or better yet let her COME to me?

Any advice would be helpful!

Go and enjoy yourself and the life you have and you probably may find yourself thinking about this less and less. And at age 18, do you have any other goals in your life to be focusing on?

You're 18. I am in my 30's and I didn't find "the one" until just over a year ago.

My advice. Be yourself and don't settle for something that isn't making you happy just because you think it's all you can get.

I'm going to burst a bubble here, but "the one" doesn't exist.
You will always have to compromise at parts, so make sure you know what is important and what you can live without (does she *have* to be 5'10, or is 5'8 tall enough, for example).

Also, "not expecting it" doesnt mean "stop searching", just keep on (trying to) meeting people and making friends; one of them might turn out to be a good match

Looking back, I wish I just relaxed and didnt worry about finding "the one", especially in my early 20s. I did not meet my wife until I was 32 and I never believed in destiny untilI met her.

My advice is not to worry about common hobbies or external beauty (those change over time) but on common values. I worried about everything but it all magically worked itself out once I let go of expectations. This does NOT mean lying on the couch but accepting that whatever happens is going to happen.

OP: What do you have to offer a beautiful girl?

Keep in mind that you have to compete with men who are not only the same age as you, but men who may be 10 or more years older than you. These men are also likely to have jobs, steady incomes, college degrees, and all of the material perks that come along with being mature, responsible adults.

Be patient, work hard, and stay out of trouble. In 10 years, your "beautiful girl" may find you.

If you really want a beautiful women, get rich & hire a pretty prostitute to keep you company for a while & you may fall in love. That's what happened in the movie Pretty Woman

When God creates your wife from your rib.

Count your ribs every morning.

I've looked back at these replies that people made after I posted this topic (Which happens to be my most popular topic so far!). It looks like I'm getting some advice on how to find the one, or if the one even exists. But I'm still not getting the true answer I've been looking for though.

If you guys think you have the true answer for me please comment on this topic! I would love to know so I can finally get going with these talents I have!