Chronos wrote:
There are two types of men when it comes to approaching women. Men who look at women and fear being rejected to them, and men who look at women and just have to go over and talk to them. These men have fundamentally different perceptions of the world. The first man focuses on the goal he might not obtain, and the second man focuses on having a good time talking to a woman.
I don't think that is accurate. I can have a good time talking to a woman provided she is as a friend, and nothing more. I have no fear of rejection in regards to friends or possible friends. I'd even say I have no fear of rejection from potential partners either, because I have a technique that has a very high success rate.
Chronos wrote:
Coming from a background where I've faced a lot of adversity, I don't think men who let the fear of rejection and failure inhibit them to the extend that they avoid the pursuit of what they want would actually make a good partner in life, because life is full of risks and rejections, and there will be times in a relationship where you have to take some risk to secure the well being of yourself, your partner or family. A person is liable to get rejected, or fail at any pursuit in life. A person can get rejected from a good job, or be rejected for a loan, or from a school they hoped to study at, or a program they hoped to participate in. A person can have a thesis rejected, a grant application rejected. A person can be rejected when attempting to rent, or even buy a house, and these days, people even get rejected from kindergartens and preschools in some areas.
Disagree. Romantic rejection cannot be compared to social rejection. Those are completely different things.
Chronos wrote:
I'm not saying you should tough up and go ask some random woman out even though you would be devastated if she said "no", I'm suggesting you change your views of approaching women, or maybe even people in general. If you enter into any social situation with the hope that you will be accepted at the top of your mind...if you approach a person thinking "I hope they accept me!" you are setting yourself up for some rough let downs. If you approach the person thinking "Hey, someone to talk to! I'm going to go say hi and maybe we can have some fun together!" then you are creating a much more casual situation for yourself, because you are not there to be accepted, you are there to have fun with someone, even if it's just a short, enjoyable conversation.
Won't work for people that have trouble approaching and talking to potential partners. It is not the same thing as being shy with strangers.