A good trend : Men stopped(cold) approaching women for good.

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Hang on. You're going off on a tangent.

My point was, there are men in the dating world who just want sex. Women will assume that a man who asks her out upon first meeting her is one of those blokes.

That's why you're right in saying women don't like the cold approach.

I just don't think I'd be a success just observing somebody for months at a time. I'd be too impatient if I have a crush on somebody. I'd want to do something about it, not necessarily sex, just companionship, being with that person, conversing with that person.

When I was 15, I had that sort of crush on a neighbor girl. She had blonde hair and blue eyes. I used to look at her window; not to see her naked, but just to see her. I wasn't really interested in seeing her naked. Nothing came of it, much to my frustration.

Earlier in that year, 1976, I had a BAD crush on a girl who lived in an apartment building about six blocks from my home. We had a passionate kissing session in her vestibule, where she taught me the proper way to tongue-kiss. She was 14, and much more experienced than I was. She was a Hispanic girl who had a father who didn't want her going out with a white guy. After the kissing session, I exploded many times in my bed.

I looked up at her window for about six months; then we moved away. One day, she ran out of her apartment building screaming and crying, I don't know why. I wonder if it had something to do with me (though I wouldn't necessarily conclude that).

A few years ago, I looked up at that same window, just to see if she was there. Nope....not even close! It would have been great, though, if I would have seen her that day! We would have been about 50 years old at the time.

After all that, I decided that observation wasn't the way to go.

Then we agree that the cold approach should die.

and you ladies shouldn't complain at all when no cute man cold approaches to you in some party. :p

Parties are different. You go to socialise and meet people. You're there with people you know, that know people you know.

It's in a bar or walking down the street that is when the cold approach is creepy. This random dude is a stranger and that's kinda scary.

Hang on. You're going off on a tangent.

My point was, there are men in the dating world who just want sex. Women will assume that a man who asks her out upon first meeting her is one of those blokes.

That's why you're right in saying women don't like the cold approach.

I enjoy going to up to women and telling them they look good. I love the smiles I get.

I went up to this woman the other day in a bagel shop. She looked really elegant. I told her: "You look elegant today." She smiled and said thank you.

Great. Guys shouldn't cold approach women if their only intention is to get a date.

If they approach women because they find them interesting and/or attractive and they genuinely wish to talk to them and find out what kind of person they are, then fair enough.

If you're not willing to talk to any kind of person, whether male or female, young or old, able-bodied or disabled, attractive or not so attractive, I doubt the cold approach method is for you.

I don't see why you should be approaching women exclusively.

I don't see why you should be approaching women exclusively.

The more people you talk to => the more networks you are buiding => the more chance you have of meeting someone through connections.

Btw, some gay guys have a lot of female friends.

Btw, let me tell you something regarding the manosphere, that it may shock: a lot of men do not see paying for sex workers as something for losers - this social rule you are talking about is commonly found among women, not among men.

I wanna give you a shocking reality check.

Let me give you a concrete examples:
Last year when I went to Prague for work, and at night we were wandering the old town with my coworkers; and they are from different natioalities : Lebanese, America, English and Czech.

Romance wise, I am the only one who would be considered.... a loser who can't attact women much- because I am the only one among them who isn't in a relationship while them are all in relationship (but their partners weren't with them in this trip).
My lebanese colleague is a very handsome man, very extrovert, he has a very very gorgeous gf, and I knew at least two girls who were chasing him.
The other men with us were married, some are in very senior positions too.

What happened? Well we found out a strip club in an alley, and they dragged me into it - I, the romance-wise loser, literally did nothing inside, I just took a drink and ignored the offers from the bold semi naked women there; one of them gave up and started to talk to me about her family and she told me that I looked nervous, she was right. lol

The romance-winners on the other hand were looking, paid for a lap dance, and my colleague and another one paid for private sessions (it was full sex).

So you see, the "prostitution is for losers who can't attract women" social rule is not applicable to the manosphere- what is worse, they were boasting about what they did to this and that.

I can give you plenty of other examples.