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Anngables
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16 Jul 2016, 4:21 am

Hurtloam . . . . You are right. I have many friends that we periodically text each other and often stop mid conversation . . . .sometimes a quick oiiiii text from a friend will remind me that I forgot to reply, but it is not a problem.

So you made me think. Why do I need something different with my aspie friendship. 1) it is a very close friendship 2) it is very different - I think I ask for some consistency as I find it quite challenging to understand the different way we communicate and interact. 3) I genuinely do worry about his safety if I haven't seen that he had been online in 24hrs, I worry he has been in an accident.

I agree the main thing is about agreeing between yourselves what you need and respecting that.



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17 Jul 2016, 6:08 pm

We have met once in person and have talked many times about seeing each again, but at the moment our schedules don't allow it. It doesn't bother me if he takes a few hours to get back to me, or even a day. What has bothered is before when we were in the middle of a conversation and then he didn't respond until a week later. Once we had talked about hanging out on the weekend and he said he thought he might be busy but he'd let me know, and I never heard from him. I thought he had just gotten tired of me and was blowing me off, then several days later he texted me after the fact to say he had been busy. I just feel like it's difficult to read the situation.



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18 Jul 2016, 3:41 am

I guess he is two timing and when the other girl quits chatting with him he jumps back to you.

I have a married guy chatting with me he goes incommunicado during weekends when is wife is around and is in full throttle during weekdays

Be careful of such manipulators


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18 Jul 2016, 4:25 am

He doesn't see you the same way you see him.

He is not interested, sorry.



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19 Jul 2016, 6:04 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
He doesn't see you the same way you see him.

He is not interested, sorry.


Maybe you are right, but can I just ask why you say that? After he said he was busy I figured he was blowing me off and I stopped talking to him, but he keeps talking to me and suggested we hang out soon. I've tried to stop talking to him, but he always texts me after I haven't talked to him for awhile.



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19 Jul 2016, 6:33 pm

It goes without saying.