Social Rules I have recently learned

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Damn right!


A lot of it is based on attraction, they will judge you based on external traits; rich/poor, doesn't really matter if you're an a$$ 'ol. Most people are fickle, so you rarely find out who they truly are. They pretend to enjoy sports & drinking just to fit in with the rest, but in reality they hate it.
I keep people distant now, so they don't have any information to pass judgement on me.
Women think I am "mysterious" lol

I got a girlfriend once, because she thought I was cool ignoring people. I've decided to go back to that, instead of trying to be friendly.
Also I enjoy making myself look extremely weird - erratic shaving (leaving long spots all over the place) and cutting my hair with scissors. My family freaks out. I see teenagers looking at me and wispering. This fills me with joy, they see things it freaks them out but due to their 'rules' they can't comment on it. I feel no shame. They will judge me for little things, so I may as well give them big things to pass judgement on.

My experience with potlucks also is the opposite of the rule the OP posted.

Leaving your leftovers behind can be considered rude in that you expect the host to eat all the leftovers, clean up your dish and return it to you whether or not they liked your contribution enough to eat it all. It is certainly polite to offer portions to other attendees to a potluck, but not to force the leftovers on them.

I have never gotten that feeling. I can't just have one conversation with someone and be able to tell if they're friend material; I need to have talked to them for multiple days, which is hard to do because you usually have to develop some sort of rapport in order to talk to someone multiple times over a course of days or weeks, and I don't really know how to form that rapport, hence me having no friends.

"-Nt's decide if they like you the first few seconds of meeting you
-Nt's first impressions are based off clothes and facial expression- and thats it, it doesn't matter what you say or who you are on the inside"

It's true that NTs draw conclusions based on someone's appearances (everyone does, to some degree), but it's the young/immature ones who make that the only or primary factor in assessing someone. Most of us know that a first impression is just that and that there is a lot more to someone than their looks. The fact that people can't be summed up so quickly--and that people aren't so simple and static--isn't a secret. Similarly, grown-up NTs know that someone's outward appearance may have little or nothing to do with a person's character.

Personally, I wouldn't recommend these as "rules" at all.

I thought the same until I saw the OP's age. The truth is that a lot of young people are still operating like that. One hopes that they get over it soon. But when you are young, you haven't learned how to see and value deeper traits than appearance.

I guess my advice would be to look for people who don't act like that.