Is this a common trait amongst aspie men?

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If she'll cheat on him, she'll cheat on you. A cheater is a cheater.

Such obvious truth but few really stop to consider it. You could add in that if (s)he badmouths exs/dates/crushes, etc guess who is going to be the next person thrown through the mud??

I think this post answers why aspie men try to hit on committed women. They cannot tell when the counterpart is or is not interested. Compare this to a man with high social value hitting on a committed women (and getting what he wants) because he knows they are interested.

In college I knew an aspie guy who tried to chat up this girl I knew who at the time was in a committed relationship with my best friend.


My friend who is a very high functioning autistic guy himself disliked the aspie guy for chatting up his gf. His girlfriend also has aspergers too.

I am a BPD, married to an Aspie and I was chased years ago by another Aspie who told me honestly that he was interested in married women because they had more sexual experience. I think he meant that literally. He was needy, I felt sorry for him, and we became friends. I assumed this guy had a narcissistic personality disorder and a depression or something like that, but it's pretty clear today (now that I understand the condition) that he has lots of AD characteristics. He is single at 45, very lonely and has lots of difficulties in his relationships so he told me he decided never to get married. I think his pursuit of married woman was related to lack of understanding that it was not appropriate.

Well I think in most cases it is safe to assume if you know a woman is in a relationship she is probably not interested in advances from other guys aside from her S.O. If an aspie guy really wants to get into that sleazy kind of behavior I suppose they'd have to get verbal confirmation from the woman that they're interested in cheating on their S.O with you via asking her straight out, since we can struggle with reading more subtle signs people might give. But I think the best option is if you know a woman is in a relationship don't make romantic advances at all, even if she would take you up...do you really want to be the sleazebag she cheated on her S.O with?

Now if you are intrested in a woman and don't know she is in a relationship...then you can certainly express interest but if they then express they're already in a relationship respect that and simply move on. If you continue trying to make advances after she tells you this than you are in the wrong.

no, I actually tend to be overcautious when approaching women to avoid accidently going after women in relationships.

No more or less than neurotypical guys, IMO.