Do all parents of ASD kids wonder if they have it too?

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I hear you. That's why I put the date (and it wasn't 20 yrs ago) in my reply; these things change. And as a Black woman married to a Jewish man and mother of two autistic children, trust me, I get it.

I think I was a bit sensitive last night. This election cycle has been nothing but a constant stream of triggers for me (jeez!). So, I really didn't like what felt like yelling at the OP. My read.

Didn't mean to cause drama.

Edited: meant to say "I" was sensitive. Bad timing on that particular typo!

My dad probably has a extremely mild form of autism or isn't Autistic enough for diagnosis. He fits a good amount of traits. He has social anxiety. I mean it is very possible. That he could. He also has short term memory problems. He doesn't wonder per say.

Never said that nor did I intimate it. And the logic you use to try to make that reach is flawed at its core. (the correct parallel would be if your child was black, since the r-word would be used against my kids, but not me. Even then, it wouldn't hold up against what I was actually saying, which is that I understand that words hurt since I live my life on the receiving end of five of the most vile, perjorative insults that a human being can throw).

As I told you years ago, leave me alone. I'm not interested in fighting with you. The debate is over, all sides are calm, and here you come in trying to stir things up. Bored? Find someone else.

Hi all! New poster here.

Yes! I wonder about this everyday. If I do have the traits that would put me on the spectrum then I am thankful for it. It allows me to better understand my son which is what matters most to me.

Growing up in 80's there was not the awareness and support we have today. I often wonder, had there been more awareness, would I have had a different experience?

I lived most of my life with my grandmother. She told me about how my mother referred to me a "a weird child". I distinctly remember starting to withdraw around the age of 5 because I never seemed to say the right thing at the right time. Felt better to just stay quiet and not deal with it. I didn't really have friends until middle school. I started to pick up on social queues that came naturally to others and became better at it during high school. It's a constant, daily struggle, though, as it is definitely something that I have to think through and it becomes quite tiresome. I usually need alone time to regroup after social interactions such as holidays, parties, and big meetings at work.

Since my son's diagnosis both grandfather's have come out to say, "He gets this from me." I am happy they feel that they understand him a little and that he is very much accepted in this family.