Question about the 'friendzone'

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So this is just a random question about the supposed friendzone

If the guy is fully aware that the girl has boyfriend, is the girl still putting him in the friendzone?

Depends on the girls disposition. And what she, as an individual choose to do.

I don't tend to chase girls who aren't single so it doesn't really apply. I don't get strung along with disingenuous flirting in hopes of getting anywhere only to be used for gifts or emotional support by people already in relationships.

It depends on what the guy thinks.
If you are referring to the "friendzone *tm", then yes, she is.

For some people, simply being nice to a girl all but forces her to at least have sex with him, or go on a date or something; not doing so puts him in the 'friendzone', and makes the girl a 'prude', 'b***h' or similar terms.

Personally, i don't believe that the friendzone is a thing, since i do not believe that anything puts a girl in the situation where she *has to* have sex with a guy, which removes the premise.
I am also a strong believer of the possibility of men and women being "just friends", without any tension from either end; many of my good friends are female, and i don't want to have sex with them (or, at least, that is not why i am friends with them, and i am perfectly happy with that situation).

to answer the opening question: i'd say "no, and if he disagrees, be careful around him"

Hi Alliekat....long time no see

As for your topic:

I would say it depends upon the specific context.

Say the girl had made the guy fully aware she has a boyfriend but still hangs out with the guy as a friend.

I don't see it as a 'friendzone" type of situation, really, though the guy whom she's friends with might be frustrated by the fact that he is not her lover.

I don't see it as placing the guy in the "friendzone." Unless she explicitly precludes the guy from ever being a potential lover in the future.

It would depend on the people involved and the nature of their friendship, I think 'friendzone' has more implications than just some platonic friendship with a man. I would not say somebody that is your friend that is also in a relationship while remaining friends with you is in the friendzone, I would only say it is the friendzone if you purposely manipulated his feelings for you to your benefit which I doubt you're are doing. I don't think friendzone is a genuine friendship.

I have no problem having opposite-sex friends who are in relationships, per se. However, I don't talk to them as much as I would someone who isn't attached, because I often don't know if their SO is the jealous, insecure type (unless I know that person of course).

It has nothing to do with them being attached. But if it's someone I had been pursuing, prior to me finding out about their new guy, I may not be friends with them, especially if I felt an emotional attachment to them, because I feel it would hurt too much to continue a friendship.

How long did you talk with the guy before telling him?

I talked a lot for weeks with a girl from dating site before she told me id say she friendZone me. She let my feeing grow for her which I wouldn't have if I'd known.

Say she told him very soon that she had a boyfriend but he still chose to spoil her. Is it her responsibility to get him to stop? Or is it his because he is already fully aware she is in a relationship.

By the way this is hypothetical due to an article I have been reading. I have guy friends but none that spoil me hahaha

^^ I would feel it is up to her to tell him to stop. Since she is in the position of enjoying what he does or not.

And if I was your guy friend Alliekit, id spoil you rotten.