why do u think NT hate quiet

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y do u think they hate it

Some NTs just like to pick out anything that is different to their social norm, (which is why bullying is a thing).

Are you asking why they hate quiet as in no noise & distractions or
why they hate quiet as in someone not being very talkative i.e big gaps of silence in a conversastion

talkative

I don't think it's just NT's who dislike quiet. For me the awkward silence is a sign that you have run out of things to say and I suppose it's embarrising that I'm not social enough to keep a conversation going.

Great question. I think they just have low arousal rate where as we have high arousal rate. It just means that we are more sensitive to stimuli around us.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arousal

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dont get it

It requires them to think silently. They are alone in their head with their own thoughts. Scary for someone that reads into everything.

"Why did the conversation end????"
"Was it my fault."
"Oh, nooo, I'm soo embarassed."
"What did I do."
"I wish he'd say something."
"No one else is looking this way, I can't smile at anyone."
"If I say something, wait, am I sweating?"

so
they hate silent

I don't think it's just an NT trait to hate silence , I thought everybody did

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Omg! Get out of my head!

I could be wrong though but that's the reason they're called uncomfortable or awkward silences.
Obviously not all silences in conversation are awkward but they are if you feel the social norm is to be.... well social.
Me and my GF could happily sit in a room and not talk to each other for an hour maybe more.

It is all about brain chemistry.

NT's and Extroverts crave dopamine and totally different neurotransmitters than introverts and Aspies. They get energized by the pump of adrenaline.

Autistic people and introverts tend to need less of these chemicals and so we tend to avoid these types of situations so we do not become over stimulated. Our primary neurotransmitter seems to be acetylcholine... which reacts differently in the brain.

OMG... I just went full nerd. lol.

I relate to this. I am not very good at keeping a conversation going. I am always amazed how others are so easily able to come up with things to talk about. As an example, my mother-in-law just visited. She talks and talks and talks and talks. It's like she free associates from topic to topic to topic.

For me, I am so singularly focused, that it's difficult to talk about anything but a few small topics (those that I am focused on most of my day). I have come to realize that with my close friends (and I have less than a handful), most of the time I am with them, they are talking probably 80-90% of the time. I listen, oftentimes out of politeness. But eventually I get bored. I suppose this is why, when I am with others, I prefer to "do things" rather than just sit around and "converse".

Well, if we like it, it only makes sense for them to hate it.