Have you had a successful relationship?

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It'll probably get worse... lol

no it'll get better
people usually get smarter when they get older

Na…I’’ve been too autistic (there’s the excuse again); most people want you to talk to them constantly, rather than just being happy in their presence [like me]. It’s most likely better for the majority of people who’ve liked me though…I rarely care about the trappings of modern society.

It’d just cause me pain ‘cause I’d force myself to be what I’m not to satisfy them…I guess that is lying to myself...I respect my integrity too much to want to do that to them and myself. I’ll probably do it eventually though…isn’t that what we do?

You see the hole in the ground due to insight but you jump into it anyway because everyone else did; rather than by accident; the outcome is the same....

Yes.

Yes.

Define "successful".

It depends...what would you consider a "successful" relationship?

I've had several meaningful relationships, so I suppose I've been lucky. But I've also run into a lot of situations where girls who are interested just can't handle how different life is with me once things actually get going. Gets frustrating.

Yeah. This is what I'm wondering. I had a marriage which
was very happy for most of 12 years, but it ended, so
I'd term it unsuccessful. Non-permanence kind of blows
anything away, for me - so I'd imagine that almost any
human-human (being mortal) relationship is doomed to
this tag.

Think about that for a minute. How many people are happy for "most of 12 years"?

I'd define that as successful under virtually any definition of the word.

Yeah. But now I have to live knowing that it's
unlikely to reach that kind of happiness again.

Still, it was worth it. Just wish MY life had ended
along with the relationship.

I have no idea. It's not a phrase I would usually use, but that's what I often hear from other people. I don't know what constitutes a successful relationship though, I guess it depends on how you interpret it. If you believe it was successful or not.

I was in successful (long-distance, with another Aspie) relationship between 2002-2006.

Tim

Sopho and all:
First, let us define our idea of successful.
btdt

But we will all disagree on what counts as a successful relationship.
It all depends on what you personally feel was successful or not.

If you count relationships that ended as unsuccessful, then none of mine were successful because they all ended. Though in two of the four, we parted on amicable terms, so maybe that would mean two of them were successful. Then again, I slept with only one of the two, so if success = sex, then I'm down to one. On the other hand, it was only in my most recent relationship that I felt there was a possibility of it becoming permanent, so maybe that's success? (It ended. Badly.)

So my answer is: I have no idea.