Have you had a successful relationship?

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18 May 2007, 5:49 am

The one I am in now has thus far been successful. I have had relationships in the past, and seeing that I am not in them any longer I can safely say that they were NOT successful. One of them was abusive. One of them didn't "get" me. The others just didn't work.
I can be difficult to be with at times, but I feel I am truly easygoing compared with some people. I have my ways and they don't seem to change, nor do i want them to.
The man I am with now accepts me as I am and my quirks/differences. When I am persuing something he lets me be and I am grateful. He has his pursuits and things and I let him be then, too. It works for us because we don't question our likenesses/differences, we got into the relationship knowing about our likenesses/differences, and we respect each other without trying to change each other.

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18 May 2007, 8:47 am

calandale wrote:

madscientist wrote:

calandale wrote:

I had a marriage which
was very happy for most of 12 years

Think about that for a minute. How many people are happy for "most of 12 years"?

I'd define that as successful under virtually any definition of the word.

Yeah. But now I have to live knowing that it's
unlikely to reach that kind of happiness again.

Still, it was worth it. Just wish MY life had ended
along with the relationship.

I hear that.

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18 May 2007, 8:52 am

TruenoBlues wrote:

AnonymousAnonymous wrote:

No.
I will probably have to wait until I graduate from HS or until my NT older sister finds a BF or a heterosexual partner to be with. There's also the religion barrier to go through since most of the girls who have attempted to ask me out are atheist or of other religions.

Just suck up your pride and date them. Religions are all made by humans, and therefore BS, but your relationship with your god isn't. Just remember that.

Well, you're human, so by the definition you gave, I have to apply your "BS" label to what you just wrote. Let's be consistent in our logic, okay? No doing so rattles my Aspie brain.

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18 May 2007, 3:46 pm

TruenoBlues wrote:

AnonymousAnonymous wrote:

Just suck up your pride and date them. Religions are all made by humans, and therefore BS, but your relationship with your god isn't. Just remember that.

I know that already, but hopefully there's someone out there who can distract my disillusioned self from my religion. Whether Catholic, Jewish, or Atheist, you're right Trueno; I'll have to find a female role model, who is a student, and be around her a lot, which I'm doing.

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