Have you had a successful relationship?

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Have you had a successful relationship?
Yes 30%  30%  [ 19 ]
No 62%  62%  [ 39 ]
Other 8%  8%  [ 5 ]
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Sopho
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10 May 2007, 4:12 pm

57%
It'll probably get worse... lol



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10 May 2007, 4:13 pm

no it'll get better
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10 May 2007, 6:57 pm

Na…I’’ve been too autistic (there’s the excuse again); most people want you to talk to them constantly, rather than just being happy in their presence [like me]. It’s most likely better for the majority of people who’ve liked me though…I rarely care about the trappings of modern society.

It’d just cause me pain ‘cause I’d force myself to be what I’m not to satisfy them…I guess that is lying to myself...I respect my integrity too much to want to do that to them and myself. I’ll probably do it eventually though…isn’t that what we do?

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11 May 2007, 10:44 pm

Yes.



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11 May 2007, 10:44 pm

Yes.



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11 May 2007, 10:50 pm

Define "successful".


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11 May 2007, 11:18 pm

It depends...what would you consider a "successful" relationship?



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12 May 2007, 12:35 am

I've had several meaningful relationships, so I suppose I've been lucky. But I've also run into a lot of situations where girls who are interested just can't handle how different life is with me once things actually get going. Gets frustrating.



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12 May 2007, 1:08 am

Cyanide wrote:
It depends...what would you consider a "successful" relationship?


Yeah. This is what I'm wondering. I had a marriage which
was very happy for most of 12 years, but it ended, so
I'd term it unsuccessful. Non-permanence kind of blows
anything away, for me - so I'd imagine that almost any
human-human (being mortal) relationship is doomed to
this tag.



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12 May 2007, 4:21 am

calandale wrote:
I had a marriage which
was very happy for most of 12 years


Think about that for a minute. How many people are happy for "most of 12 years"?

I'd define that as successful under virtually any definition of the word.


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12 May 2007, 4:48 am

madscientist wrote:
calandale wrote:
I had a marriage which
was very happy for most of 12 years


Think about that for a minute. How many people are happy for "most of 12 years"?

I'd define that as successful under virtually any definition of the word.


Yeah. But now I have to live knowing that it's
unlikely to reach that kind of happiness again.

Still, it was worth it. Just wish MY life had ended
along with the relationship.



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12 May 2007, 6:23 am

Xenon wrote:
Define "successful".

I have no idea. It's not a phrase I would usually use, but that's what I often hear from other people. I don't know what constitutes a successful relationship though, I guess it depends on how you interpret it. If you believe it was successful or not.



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12 May 2007, 10:24 am

I was in successful (long-distance, with another Aspie) relationship between 2002-2006.

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12 May 2007, 4:43 pm

Sopho and all:
First, let us define our idea of successful.
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12 May 2007, 5:00 pm

But we will all disagree on what counts as a successful relationship.
It all depends on what you personally feel was successful or not.



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12 May 2007, 6:53 pm

If you count relationships that ended as unsuccessful, then none of mine were successful because they all ended. Though in two of the four, we parted on amicable terms, so maybe that would mean two of them were successful. Then again, I slept with only one of the two, so if success = sex, then I'm down to one. On the other hand, it was only in my most recent relationship that I felt there was a possibility of it becoming permanent, so maybe that's success? (It ended. Badly.)

So my answer is: I have no idea.


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