Have you had a successful relationship?

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Have you had a successful relationship?
Yes 30%  30%  [ 19 ]
No 62%  62%  [ 39 ]
Other 8%  8%  [ 5 ]
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12 May 2007, 5:00 pm

But we will all disagree on what counts as a successful relationship.
It all depends on what you personally feel was successful or not.



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12 May 2007, 6:53 pm

If you count relationships that ended as unsuccessful, then none of mine were successful because they all ended. Though in two of the four, we parted on amicable terms, so maybe that would mean two of them were successful. Then again, I slept with only one of the two, so if success = sex, then I'm down to one. On the other hand, it was only in my most recent relationship that I felt there was a possibility of it becoming permanent, so maybe that's success? (It ended. Badly.)

So my answer is: I have no idea.


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12 May 2007, 6:57 pm

The real problem is, that when you're in the
midst of a relationship, everything seems okay
(well, not always, but we'll leave that alone for
now). In addition to my marriage, I had one LTR
which seemed (at the time) to be successful. But,
I found out that there was a lot of deceit involved,
and it really wasn't very good, after the first year.

I had another LTR which I KNEW was hell, nonetheless,
it persisted - and I believed that we would always be
close. We were, until she died.



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12 May 2007, 7:08 pm

I'd define a successful relationship as one which makes you happy for a nontrivial amount of time. That simple. True, when they end it can be sad and even painful, but the old cliche "better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all" I think is true. There's nothing that can make you quite as happy or joyful as being in a close reciprocal relationship.


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12 May 2007, 9:21 pm

madscientist wrote:
I'd define a successful relationship as one which makes you happy for a nontrivial amount of time. That simple. True, when they end it can be sad and even painful, but the old cliche "better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all" I think is true. There's nothing that can make you quite as happy or joyful as being in a close reciprocal relationship.


What then is non-trivial (in terms of time)? A moment can seem
like eternity.

I'm not even sure that the reciprocal issue is necessary.
Love is a wonderful feeling, and even if it is unrequited, it can be quite exhilarating.



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13 May 2007, 12:13 am

It doesn't really matter what the definition of sucessful is in this context; no.



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13 May 2007, 1:50 am

I've had one kinda work out, but it didn't mostly for distance.


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13 May 2007, 10:44 am

I put myself down as "other", but it really depends what you count as successful. I have had one relationship which was successful for a while, but after a while it turned a bit sour and we started to argue. So overall not a 100% successful relationship.



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13 May 2007, 4:18 pm

madscientist wrote:
I'd define a successful relationship as one which makes you happy for a nontrivial amount of time. That simple. True, when they end it can be sad and even painful, but the old cliche "better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all" I think is true. There's nothing that can make you quite as happy or joyful as being in a close reciprocal relationship.


By this definition, I've had one succesful relationship.


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13 May 2007, 5:57 pm

My vote is no, but I am far from giving up, I'm only 27. 8)



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17 May 2007, 7:03 pm

No.
I will probably have to wait until I graduate from HS or until my NT older sister finds a BF or a heterosexual partner to be with. There's also the religion barrier to go through since most of the girls who have attempted to ask me out are atheist or of other religions.


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17 May 2007, 10:46 pm

AnonymousAnonymous wrote:
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I will probably have to wait until I graduate from HS or until my NT older sister finds a BF or a heterosexual partner to be with. There's also the religion barrier to go through since most of the girls who have attempted to ask me out are atheist or of other religions.


Just suck up your pride and date them. Religions are all made by humans, and therefore BS, but your relationship with your god isn't. Just remember that.


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17 May 2007, 10:52 pm

I have had one successful relationship (lasted from 2002-2006), and I am working hard to find out what I have to do to have another successful one.

My definition of "successful" is: no cheating, and no other forms of manipulation whatsoever.

Tim


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18 May 2007, 1:09 am

Tim_Tex wrote:
I have had one successful relationship (lasted from 2002-2006), and I am working hard to find out what I have to do to have another successful one.

My definition of "successful" is: no cheating, and no other forms of manipulation whatsoever.

Tim


You will have to find someone you are interested in who wants to have a successful relationship with you as well. :wink: That is all you have to "do" You shouldn't have to change yourself for someone. Not saying that this is what you are saying...just a random thought. :)



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18 May 2007, 4:10 am

Raylynn wrote:
Tim_Tex wrote:
I have had one successful relationship (lasted from 2002-2006), and I am working hard to find out what I have to do to have another successful one.

My definition of "successful" is: no cheating, and no other forms of manipulation whatsoever.

Tim


You will have to find someone you are interested in who wants to have a successful relationship with you as well. :wink: That is all you have to "do" You shouldn't have to change yourself for someone. Not saying that this is what you are saying...just a random thought. :)


Thanks!

Tim


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