How to attract women

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And some of the biggest ones I've seen have been attached to aspies.

Confidence is the number one attractive trait to women. That is he is not nervous, can easily say hi to a girl, he has opinions and doesn't back down from them if challenged.

He can dress well, do his hair well. Not overly tidy, but just enough to not look like a geek or slob.

He can recognise enough interest signals from females, are they looking at him, are they happy talking to him. He knows if he can ask for their number or not.

Perhaps he can sing, play guitar, or dance - women LOVE this. It is the universal icebreaker.

He is chilled, outcome independent. He doesn't mind if the woman that he decides to chat with gives him the cold shoulder, or refuses to give her number (for whatever reason). He smiles and walks off confidently, there will be another girl next block, or tomorrow.

One of the things I see, is that you posted 3 times before anyone else had the chance to do anything. That is a sign of desperation/neediness - women will spot that as a red flag immediately and mark you as unattractive.
One way is just to being to talk to women, without any expectations, just chat to people, old women even that you are not attracted to. Just as a test run, then you can work up to attractive women. Once you are good at talking then try asking for numbers, do it to older women - they will laugh at you. This is good. This will teach you how to deal with being laughed at by young attractive women. Learn to laugh at yourself and not get embarassed. Roll with the punches.

There's another topic that's has great recent posts of advice that OP could refer to, it's called 'Still Haven't Found A Girlfriend'.

be NT.
it's that simple.
or not, for us.

I just realized:
the most attractive thing a man can do is be smarter than me, I would follow him to the end of the world.
but a woman needs only to be pleasant.

oh rats! i just realized, as I was typing, that's Dad & Mom.

That could help a bit, but doesn't guarantee a thing. You can copy his intereactions, but you also have to notice the situation and the context. We autistics are generally not good at that (although I do believe there are some exceptions). You can do as he does, but it can be an utter fail when the context is wrong.

I have been working on several things related to social skills: good listener, using humor, smiles often (I smile a lot as a relatively new nature; I also did that as a kid, but I attracted unwanted people), but I am not so successful, though, to have more luck with women. When I was much younger, they told me, I am very attractive, but I also was relatively fast aware that girls and young women played tricks on me.


I agree with this part. I do think copying the behaviour of someone who is successful with women, is not a "silver bullet".

Since some people were asking, here's a couple fairly recent pics of me beside some of him.

Yes, I think he's slimmer and more handsome than you.

Btw I have a photo between girls(friends) like this one, it doesn't mean I am having sex day and night.
Some colleague guys (and even women!!) were like "Ohhh you are having girlfriends" when they saw me in such innocent pics - how stupid.

*Serious Answer* You have a stable job, live alone, I'm assuming can drive, are a successful independent author, and have hobbies and interests that you are passionate about.

The only thing left is to lose weight and dress a little better.

But remember, all the self improvement in the world means nothing if you just aren't meeting any new people, especially women, especially compatible ones for love and friendship, regularly.

This is coming from somene well a few years into their 'path of self-improvement'. *Serious Answer*

But, wait, I thought all women were different and like different things?

So why should any man have to improve themselves whatsoever?

Either way, all you need Adamguy is CAWCAWCAW(KYNESS)NFIDANCE!!

You will be equally as successful as your brother if you are just as confident as he is.

Forget the fact his face looks slightly better, he dresses a bit better and has a slimmer body, you are basically completely equal in attractiveness except he has more confidence (don't mean to make you feel bad, I'm sure you may already believe quite a few of these things)

Always remember this.

All women are different and like different things, except it seems all women like cawkfidance.

So you are equal in attractiveness to all men except the men in relationships have more cawkfidance than you, even the suicidal ones with no confidence and low self-esteem must have cawkfidance because they're in a relationship, right?

Remember, Adamguy, you and I are equal in attractiveness to all men, tall, short, slim, muscular, fat, homeless, CEO, etc.

Just get that there cuckfidance.





This is coming from someone confidence and good self-esteem never worked for in the past, btw.