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19 Dec 2016, 9:06 pm

what are the social rules we have to follow

list them all down here


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19 Dec 2016, 9:13 pm

1. Be kind.


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19 Dec 2016, 9:29 pm

2. Don't act like a Wolfman on public transportation.

3. Don't ask for sex on the first date

4. Don't cut in on line (in most places, it's "in line" or "in a queue.")

5. Do say "thank you" when somebody does something really nice for you.



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20 Dec 2016, 3:41 am

Don't talk about wanting to get married and have kids with them on your first date.


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20 Dec 2016, 3:44 am

League_Girl wrote:
Don't talk about wanting to get married and have kids with them on your first date.


lol hilarious.


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20 Dec 2016, 3:51 am

How long do you have?


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20 Dec 2016, 3:55 am

League_Girl wrote:
Don't talk about wanting to get married and have kids with them on your first date.

So *that's* what I've been doing wrong . . .

:mrgreen:


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20 Dec 2016, 4:21 am

Darmok wrote:
League_Girl wrote:
Don't talk about wanting to get married and have kids with them on your first date.

So *that's* what I've been doing wrong . . .

:mrgreen:



My husband did that to me and it freaked me out. I barely knew him and we had just met in person and he is already talking about wanting to marry me and having kids. I had just gotten out of a bad relationship by someone who was also quick to having a relationship before he even knew me and this guy I had just met was already talking about marriage and kids with me. :lol:


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20 Dec 2016, 4:32 am

1. As someone said be a nice person.
2. Have values that are relatable, positive and in line with the norm, and should usually satisfy that it is in line (consistent) with what makes more amount of people happy (utilitarianism). You should not be afraid to stick up for such values now and then if you are sure that people can understand and relate to your ultimate goal. There's a balance to everything however and don't overdo it.
3. Don't make inappropriate jokes that others don't think is funny (there's a truth to every joke)
4. Check out the live streams from this guy, its really helpful https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwvDTKNyBSI
5. There's a balance to everything, don't overfocus on smaller aspects of socializing, try to continously evolve and learn to develop "what would make me socially more successful?"



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20 Dec 2016, 5:38 pm

League_Girl wrote:
Darmok wrote:
League_Girl wrote:
Don't talk about wanting to get married and have kids with them on your first date.

So *that's* what I've been doing wrong . . .

:mrgreen:
My husband did that to me . . .

Ah, but you've just proven that this *is* the right approach, because he's now your husband. :D


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20 Dec 2016, 8:47 pm

When in doubt, mimic what everyone else is doing around you.



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20 Dec 2016, 9:36 pm

Micro movements. I've always had n interest in these. Make sure you don't have a blank face all the time or make small movements with arms and legs as neurotypicals pick these up as signals and get mad at you. And on the same note, walking style has to be perfect and (neorotypical-like) or you will be angering people. Don't walk too aggressively (fast and wide) and too passively (small weak steps) because these will piss neurotypicals off. Observe them and just copy. These are just a few social rules I could think of that have helped me.