How you come across online vs. in real life

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lol I know what that is like.

It is helpful to come here occasionally

this place saved my life.

I understand an avatar is meant to represent you, but in all honesty, I never include avatars or online names in an assessment of someone. I typically just analyze their viewpoints, perceived morality and things of that nature to build my outlook on said person. I wonder if I am alone in discarding avatars and names while building datum.

all I can say is that the username and avatar are useful pieces of info augmenting what one knows about the poster.

Maybe it's because I don't take that information seriously. I have found it to be a poor choice to assume someone is male or female by an avatar just like IRL making assumptions from outside appearances may not represent who they are inside. Or that any serious thought went into someone's profile name that seems silly or created out of necessity. Maybe I am alone in thinking this way.

I chose both of mine with great care, knowing that they must be my "who I am I wear on my sleeves" badge ID of sorts. I don't know how many others here feel similarly but I would guess a great many.

I see the error in my ways, thanks for the insight.

no "error" here, just a different way of perceiving this world. I would also imagine there are lotsa folks who see things your way as well.

In real life, I come across in a way that makes people feel sorry for me. Online, obviously not the case - I've sometimes been told I'm being viewed as threatening, no idea where that comes from. How can I be opposites?

I think I come across as goofy IRL. Probably online too. And sometimes I think I appear aggressive and overly confident IRL - but I doubt that is the case online, where I have more time to think, and body language is not a factor.

I'm really wordy, though, and that works better on WP than IRL. I suspect it would be less popular on other forums.

Online, I can type the same as how I think and I can be who I really am. Other people have told me I'm very nice and understanding.

In real life, I can't talk to anyone (only four people, who are my parents and sisters) and if I'm around other people, I'll sit there playing with my hands, jewellery or bag, tapping my face with my fingers, not talking and not really looking at anyone. I'm sure everyone thinks I'm rude or dumb, and that I think I'm better than them. When I'm not there, they probably talk about me and say bad things.

I'm rather new here, so I don't know if people have much of an opinion of me yet or not.
I have used other forums before and as a lot of people here have said, I think I come across better online because writing is easier than talking and I can take time to think about my responses and edit them before I post. This means that I tend to say a lot more, because in real life I am very quiet. I often can't think of what to say, and by the time I have thought of it, the conversation has moved on or other people are talking too much and I can't get a word in edgeways.
I have to say that I love WP because I don't need to worry that there are any alterior motives, just a lot of people who are naturally honest and say what they mean, and talk about the things that really interest them, and I find it refreshing and clear.

i probably sound a lot more eloquent on here than in speech.

which is probably a no brainer and true for most. here you can put thought into what you wanna say.

i try to not be as much of a jerk here, as i can be offline...unintentionally.

I definitely come over better online. Communicating through text is far easier for me than speaking to someone, and no one sees the anxiety.

Communicating online is easier for me. You have time to think about what you're going to say. Plus, I think I come across as less awkward online as opposed to IRL.