Ex-girlfriend Has Contacted Me

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30 Dec 2016, 10:59 am

Hi everyone.

I'm in a bit of a strange situation right now and was really hoping for some advice.

Over the past couple of months, I have noticed on a couple of occasions that my ex-girlfriend has been liking things that I post on Twitter and it's sent me a notification about it, the most recent one being a couple of weeks ago. She was not following me on Twitter and so to see the notifications was a real shock and totally unexpected, and led me to suspect she has been stalking my Twitter and reading past messages that I put on.

And then last week out of nowhere, she sent me a private message on Twitter, wanting to meet up with me and "make peace" as she put it. I was rather shocked when I saw the message and it was totally unexpected, especially given the fact we broke up a couple of years ago and have had no contact since. I sent a message back the following day saying I was happy to meet her so it looks like in the next couple of weeks we are going to be meeting up and discussing things.

However, since those exchange of messages, my head has been filled with a lot of things, including the possibility that she may be doing this just to try and get back with me. I believe that in the 2 years since we broke up she has been through a number of relationships, all of which have failed. Meanwhile, I have been trying to get on with my life and basically just try and move on and be happy again.

I have a few questions:

Seeing as my ex has basically been stalking my Twitter, do you think that this is a sign that she misses me? I cant think of any other reason to stalk your ex on social media unless you were to miss them. For the record, I have been nowhere near any of her social media since we broke up, seeing as I wanted to pretty much move on.

Am I doing the right thing by agreeing to meet with her? We haven't set a time or place to meet yet but it seems that in the next few days we are going to come to an arrangement. It's going to be crazy seeing her again after such a long time.

I also want to ask what you think she wants? By "making peace" does she just want to put things to bed and let us go our separate ways and properly move on, or could it really be that she wants to give it another go with me? I am so confused right now as to what she wants out of this.

Any advice and opinions would be greatly appreciated.



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30 Dec 2016, 11:11 am

Absolutely, she wants to get back together with you.

It's possible that you might be "the man of the moment" for her, and that she'll use you until she finds someone "better" (no, it doesn't meant the other guy is "better").

In other words, she might be using you.

Then again, maybe she sees the "error of her ways," and sincerely wants a serious relationship with you again.

I don't believe she wants "closure"--people don't operate like that, usually. They don't stalk your Twitter and Facebook if they merely want "closure."



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30 Dec 2016, 11:47 am

I wouldn't really call it stalking but yeah, she might be interested.



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30 Dec 2016, 12:16 pm

Meh...I'm IAR, have been for some time, stalk my exes, and it's really nothing.

I have a stalker, too. She's the golddigger I had a tough time getting over back in the day. Every now and then she sends me a message and I'll send something back to be nice. I guess we're friends. But between my current status as our history, I keep her at arm's length and don't encourage her.

What you need to do is go with the flow and see where this is going. Maybe she's just using you because she's lonely/bored, maybe she just wants to wrap things up for a New Year's resolution or because the holidays are getting to her. Expect nothing. Don't get hopes up. At worst nothing changes. At best you're pleasantly surprised. Just see what happens and let us know how it goes!



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30 Dec 2016, 12:20 pm

She's trying to get back together with you. It's been 2 years. The time to "make peace and go our separate ways" has come and long gone.

Are you in the northern hemisphere? I can't see your profile at the moment. If so, this is a great time for people to "hiberdate." Just someone to date during the winter. And what better partner than someone you already have a history with. Better the devil you know and so forth.


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30 Dec 2016, 5:00 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Absolutely, she wants to get back together with you.

It's possible that you might be "the man of the moment" for her, and that she'll use you until she finds someone "better" (no, it doesn't meant the other guy is "better").

In other words, she might be using you.

Then again, maybe she sees the "error of her ways," and sincerely wants a serious relationship with you again.

I don't believe she wants "closure"--people don't operate like that, usually. They don't stalk your Twitter and Facebook if they merely want "closure."


I agree. It's also possible she just got dumped and is on the rebound. She may see you as an easy target for emotional supports until someone else comes along. Also, liking your stuff on twitter seems like a passive aggressive way of getting your attention. She was probably trying to get you to contact her first, but it wasn't working so she caved in and went ahead and messaged you.