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Rimumimukai
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08 Jan 2017, 4:28 am

Hi all,

Ever since I was younger and first started developing I hated wearing a bra. I have tried every kind from sports to bralette to push up and I still feel really uncomfortable and its hard to feel safe when braless in public , so I'm considering getting a mastectomy/reduction. Just wondering if theres anybody out there who managed to get one for sensory/ASD reasons?

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Ari



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08 Jan 2017, 10:05 am

I wouldn't consider surgery unless my chest was so large it was causing back issues.

I like bras that are 100 percent cotton. Anything else bothers me.


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10 Jan 2017, 11:29 am

I've always been obsessed with wearing a bra



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10 Jan 2017, 7:04 pm

Hi,

I have immense difficulty in finding a bra that is cozy, supportive and doesnt look wierd.

I do not like making my breasts look larger, it gets negative attention.

Instead of going bra-less (again, more potential unneeded attention), I started wearing cozier cotton (and spandex blend sometimes) bras that are more suited for athletic wear-- no poking wires or plastic, cheap styrophoam-esque shapes, or itchy seams.

Really, clothes in general for Aspie women is an issue.
I cant seem to get my NT female friends on board with me.
They must be de-sensitized to tight fitting clothes up in their armpits and you know where else. Really jeans are tough, as much as I love a pair of tight jeans, its an uphill battle.

My mother is the only one who seems to get it as a baby boomer gen hippy.
She always endorses wearing breathable flowing clothing, kind of what people in traditional african or indian dress would wear.. I guess yoga culture and yoga clothing would be a good place to look for cozy solutions.
It looks and feels better than some stuff that women put themselves through. IMO its torture.
I think a lot of aspie women share the feeling.

I wear simple bras that have no underwire and press my boobs down.
I fit shirts differently (the way I prefer). It sounds petty but its a world of difference to more top heavy women.
I feel more mobility as I embrace my androgyny more, and borrow from natural, less effort "french" looks. I dont play down my style for comfort. Its a shame people seem to think you cant have one without the other.

Good luck with your boobs.



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10 Jan 2017, 8:24 pm

I have fairly smallish boobs and mostly just go braless. However if that's not something you can do you might try a snug cotton undershirt. I used to wear them in high-school.



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10 Jan 2017, 11:23 pm

i am in the process of getting a breast reduction. my breasts are size 36L+ in UK sizing. or about 36P+ in USA sizing. and having aspergers makes this doubly difficult of course! i want to get rid of them completely. i cannot stand the skin from my breasts touching my chest/stomach area. it tugs on it all day every day unless i wear a bra. which is so unbearable ugh! and due to wearing bras (which i cannot even fit into cup-size anymore) i have carpal tunnel issues out the wazooooooo.

anyways. now that i finally have health insurance for the first time in my life since being under my mother's, i went to my first dr. preliminary appt. and the first thing she asked me was if i wanted a breast reduction. and i'm nervous as hell. but i'm going through with it.

my mammogram is next tuesday and then it goes from there... but yes. i want these thigns gone. but from as much as i've read you don't get a full mastectomy ever unless you have cancer. i believe the surgeon will also only go so low in size. i'm not entirely sure what they base it on though. but i think some of it is due to your own body fat percentage. i'd like to be a B or C cup though. *crosses fingers*



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10 Jan 2017, 11:40 pm

You could try wearing tank tops or camisoles under your shirt. It would look like you're wearing a bra, and it might make you feel safer.



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11 Jan 2017, 11:31 am

Maybe you've been wearing the wrong size bras. I've read most women wear band sizes too large and cup sizes too small, which can cause a lot of discomfort. I can't stand not wearing a bra because I don't like feeling them jiggle and having my nipples show when cold or whatever.



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29 Jan 2017, 6:26 pm

OOOOooohh I hate bras too! They're awful. I screwed up my back trying to escape the strap across the back. :p Awful things.

My chest even at nearly 50 isn't too droopy so I still go braless. I use dense camisoles (not the kind with the shelf bra), very stretchy. I used "petals" to cover nipples if I was going with only one layer. Mostly I go with a couple of layers. I have horrible posture from trying to hide my boobs because of attention I got in 4th grade by a 6th grade girl teasing me for stuffing my bra. So veeerrrrryyyyy self-conscious about my chest.

So yeah, I can relate. And I usually do a cami (highly snug and stretchy) and then baggier shirt over it. :D

I did try a corset because of it's whole trunk squeeze but my chest was too big to be contained. I haven't tried the under the breast type though. That wouldn't help anyway.

(as a mention, most recently measured as a 42 D a few years ago.)

Being cut is awful too so surgery never occurred to me. Hope that helps some. :D



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29 Jan 2017, 6:48 pm

A lot of sports bras are more like very tight tank tops. I wear the less-tight varieties, or sometimes the tank tops with 'built-in bras' (which are, again, like a mild sort of sports bra.) I suspect my sensory issues are milder, but I've always found underwire bras particularly annoying to wear.



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18 Feb 2017, 11:48 am

I've often thought about this myself on a serious level, they serve no purpose for me as I don't want children but I like having boobs in general. I've thought of removing the natural ones and getting implants purely because of the threat of breast cancer. I'm still undecided, I think if they annoy you completely though then just get rid. Bras are a pain and I barely wear one myself cause they're annoying and itchy sometimes. I guess I wouldn't have a need for a bra if I had implants though (unless gym) cause you can always get them adjusted if you needed to unlike natural boobies. *shrug*


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10 Jun 2017, 12:31 am

I never heard about such problem from wearing a bra. I think if you hate wearing bras because they are uncomfortable, you are probably wearing the wrong bras. First choose a bra that fits your lifestyle. Second your bra should fit you exactly in terms of your cup size and the band size. Next, even if the fit is exact, the fabric should be comfortable.



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11 Jun 2017, 3:08 pm

I refused to wear a bra up until 8th grade, when I started to really need one badly. I only wore cotton stretchy ones with no padding or wires. I still have a lot of sensory issues with those. However, now my breasts are so big that I feel uncomfortable without a bra and I get really uncomfortable when my nipples show, so I always wear one.


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11 Jun 2017, 3:37 pm

I have small boobs (32A) so I go braless. If I'm afraid that my nipples will show then I'll use those silicon nipple stickers or wear a tight tank top inside.



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01 Jul 2017, 11:45 pm

I seriously wish that I could go braless - however, as a girl with 34D cup size it is hard. Sagging is a given with my cup size... if I were a few cup sizes smaller I'd have zero issues going braless in public. I hate when people say that "Not wearing a bra makes your boobs perkier and less saggy" - because that is a myth, it does not work on cup sizes larger than a C cup. And even if it did... people like myself don't feel comfortable walking around with jiggling boobs that don't connect, they just kind of point to the side.

Bras? Don't get me started. Sports bras are alright, but I prefer to save them for when I need them (working out) - any others that I have bought have left me mainly disappointed. If anyone has a recommendation for bras for cup sizes D and up, that do not have lots of padding, and are form-fitting and comfy... please let me know? :oops:


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02 Jul 2017, 3:36 am

I'm the opposite, I only feel comfortable when I'm wearing a bra, so much so that I even sleep in bras. I don't feel comfortable without the support. I also need to have it be the right size not just in the cup, but in the band, the part that goes around your ribcage.

I need the 'band' to be super-tight. If the band size is too large and moving around, it drives me crazzzzeeeee. But if the band size is really tight, all is well in my world.

It may even be that I'm making my bra bands act as the "hugging" technique said to soothe people on the spectrum, as something about the sheer pressure of the tight band goes a long way to making me okay, and a loose band affects everything. I have to even sew mine tighter if I can't find a small enough size in the shops.

Are you sure you can't find a right-fitting bra? Most women are not wearing the correct bra size, as for a long time we haven't been measuring the right places properly.

You have to measure your band size, then the largest place around the actual breast, then find out the difference and consult a chart that calculates what the cup size should be. Things wind up crazy, like "28 F" instead of the 34 C someone may have been mistakenly wearing. And it's impossible to find those adjusted sizes in stores other than specialist ones.