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29 Jan 2017, 2:13 pm

I have started putting a stone in my mouth to keep from rambling. I get in trouble all the time for talking too much, and I hope this will help. Of course, there is the consideration of someone asking me a question and having to take the rock out to speak, but I'm okay with that. People already think I'm a weirdo. It's a compliment at this point.

What do you think? Anybody else have this problem?

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29 Jan 2017, 5:02 pm

Take the stone out of your mouth, please.

Why do people think you're talking too much?



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29 Jan 2017, 5:14 pm

Demosthenes would be proud of you.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demosthen ... ticing.jpg

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29 Jan 2017, 6:23 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Take the stone out of your mouth, please.

Why do people think you're talking too much?


I don't like being talked to in that tone of voice, sir.



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29 Jan 2017, 7:15 pm

I would probably end up choking on the stone.



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29 Jan 2017, 7:23 pm

I do the same thing with a broken off toothpick.
I clamp it between my back teeth.
Not really to stop talking, but it helps with anxiety to bite down on something.
You can easily push it up between your gum and cheek if you have to speak.
I've swallowed dozens of them.
I imagine I must be like pick-up sticks inside.


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29 Jan 2017, 10:42 pm

I was only kidding. You took me too seriously.

I just meant that you shouldn't let people induce you to put a stone in your mouth.

Can't we start over?



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30 Jan 2017, 12:16 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I was only kidding. You took me too seriously.

I just meant that you shouldn't let people induce you to put a stone in your mouth.

Can't we start over?


Well, it would make sense that I wouldn't understand that you were joking. I was recently mocked by coworkers for not understanding sarcasm. I introduced a post called "Mocked" describing this situation.

I understand what you were saying, and yes, I think we should start over. :)

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30 Jan 2017, 12:17 pm

Raleigh wrote:
I do the same thing with a broken off toothpick.
I clamp it between my back teeth.
Not really to stop talking, but it helps with anxiety to bite down on something.
You can easily push it up between your gum and cheek if you have to speak.
I've swallowed dozens of them.
I imagine I must be like pick-up sticks inside.


This sounds like a better alternative. I could get some plastic ones, since if something is in my mouth I like to chew it and would end up eating the wooden ones. Thanks for the information!

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30 Jan 2017, 2:25 pm

Why do you feel the need to stifle yourself?

What is it that gets people upset? Your volume? Your ideas? Or merely the quantity of talk?

If it's not harming anybody, I just don't like the idea of "stifling" anybody. It reminds me of Archie Bunker saying "stifle yourself" to his wife Edith.

I understand that one needs to learn how to "edit" one's thoughts; I've learned that lesson. But I don't even like the toothpick idea too much---though it's better than a stone.



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30 Jan 2017, 3:46 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Why do you feel the need to stifle yourself?

What is it that gets people upset? Your volume? Your ideas? Or merely the quantity of talk?

If it's not harming anybody, I just don't like the idea of "stifling" anybody. It reminds me of Archie Bunker saying "stifle yourself" to his wife Edith.

I understand that one needs to learn how to "edit" one's thoughts; I've learned that lesson. But I don't even like the toothpick idea too much---though it's better than a stone.


I think it's because I talk loudly (very loudly), and I tend to go on and on with every little thought in my head, and it grates on their nerves. "Stifle, stifle, stifle!" I remember that show lol. I appreciate your not immediately assuming I need to shut it! ^.^

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30 Jan 2017, 4:18 pm

I talk a lot depending on mood. I have become better at self filtering.

However you will become unhappy if you stifle yourself too much. Try to find a balance.



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30 Jan 2017, 5:00 pm

catchme wrote:
I think it's because I talk loudly (very loudly) ...


Some people are naturally louder and some are naturally quieter. Some aspies, however, have trouble with volume regulation -- it's not a natural loudness or softness, but an unawareness of whether they are being too loud or too soft. I believe it's one of those auditory processing things that a certain proportion of aspies have. You may fall into that category. (Or you may just be naturally loud. :D


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30 Jan 2017, 7:00 pm

I'll be honest: I don't like loudness when it comes to speaking.

It doesn't mean I wouldn't like you, though. I've liked people who speak loud.

I guess one solution would be, like others have said, to monitor the volume of your voice when you're in private. Perhaps, talk to a mirror or something. Or listen to yourself on tape.

I'm usually a rather soft-spoken person---but, sometimes, when I get enthused about something, I've been known to embarrass people in public.

When it comes to how thoughts evolve into words, sometimes I'm guilty of what you're "guilty" of. I get a little carried away. The solution, in this case, is to consciously edit your thoughts for relevance to any topic.

If I actually knew you in person, I might be able to offer better advice.



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30 Jan 2017, 8:28 pm

Personally...

I find rambling to be attractive. I'd listen to ya!



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31 Jan 2017, 1:23 am

I've talked way too much in my younger years about subjects only I am interested in, either when I was elated, or depressed. While I understand I was sometimes irritating to be around at times, many of my friends were just cruel about it.


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