Over Thinking

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It surely sounds familiar.

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b/c i am profoundly afraid of doing something i regret. in the past i did plenty of things i regretted. in some instances, the punishments were far worse than i had ever imagined.

however, i ain't afraid of not doing something i should have done.

For a long time, I have been grotesquely overthinking. Often things that happened over twenty years ago. From every last angle


It has to be a balance, among:. Thought, emotion, action , statement



But then most lil dipshits talk too much and think too little so whatever

Yes. Overthinking. Yes. I think lots and lots and lots. Overthinking has caused me to put my foot in it many times. Unfortunately by overthinking, I cause problems where there never was a problem in the first place.

^^ I know what you last two posters mean. I either overthink or not think enough. I've been accused of not thinking a lot for making mistakes & screwing things up. However I sometimes overthought & analyzed something the wrong way. I saw the situation or whatever from an angle noone else would. I sometimes focus on the wrong aspects of something & ignore the parts I really should focus on. I often focus on the details & not see the big picture which causes me to make mistakes or not finish stuff when I should.

Hard to wind down. Overthinking too much. Is early hours of the morning.

Sometimes, just expressing how overthinking is applied can be comical.

Yes. And finding words to express inner groanings inside... To put the depth of feelings into word form! Somehow words are like the mesh of a sieve where most feelings can't be captured into word form, but flow straight through the gaps!

I find that when I am alone for prolonged periods with no immediate, urgent commitments I tend to start thinking obsessively. Keeping busy helps me. Part of my ADD is obsessive thinking whilst procrastinating. It's a loopy loop.

I overthink so badly I am just about paralysed. I am definitely a maximiser and always want to take everything into consideration and come up with the best possible solution given the circumstances. This given the circumstances bit is what really scuppers me. How can you know the circumstances will be ahead of time? It means I can't plan ahead at all. Everything needs to be ataken into account but not everything can be known ahead of time therefore planning is impossible. I can only function in the present with only broad aims towards the future. Paradoxically I often end up acting impulsively because I think myself into a corner and have to jump one way or the other under force of circumstances alone.

Because of this my routine is critical to me as it doesn't require as much thought as the thinking for that set of actions has mostly been done. I still keep tweaking it but the bulk of the planning has been done beforehand. I am very efficient within my routine and get masses done but it doesn't work as well if I get distracted by someone else being there. I am supposed to organise volunteers as well as myself to get the work done and I find it very very difficult and make a mess of it and everything takes longer than it would if I just worked alone. I am rubbish at explaining what I mean and it takes so much longer checking if someone did something than simply doing it. I don't mean to be unfriendly but it just isn't where my skills lie. I am pretty good at coping with immediate events but rubbish at planning anything. If something is planned in advance I torture myself turning it over and over in my mind. I can only cope if I just forbid myself to think about it and face it only when it rolls around. Or avoid it, another thing I am good at! If there was an avoidance Olympics I would win all the medals.... only I wouldn't collect them! Then of course there is the overthinking that happens after the event and the horror at what an idiot I am.