Can anyone identify with this?

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About a decade ago while attending the mental health day centre I did a swimming group which took place at the local swimming pool. I think it was for exercise and some interaction.
I didn't interact. I spent the time seeing how many lengths I could do. The other people might as well have not been there so fixated was I on my task.
Several of the patients met up during the week. I,of course, wasn't one of them.

In a literal sense, no, I can't, since I can't swim. But in a more general sense, of not socialising in situations of that kind, yes, absolutely.

Yes, I would much rather focus on exercise than interaction.

i would have been off to the side seeing how long i could hold my breath and doing flips and stuff

That describes my school life from pre-school to university. I was so focused on my school work that I did not even notice that it was an option to interact with my school mates.

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"I am silently correcting your grammar."

yes. when i worked as a Tax Preparer, they took a break for lunch. someone bought a large bucket of vietnamese noodles for everyone to eat out of. and they sat around eating and talking. while i went upstairs. empty floor. sat alone and ate. and then after that went outside.

maybe i should've interacted more and ate less.

but quite frankly, @ this point. even though i crave social interaction. social interaction appears a bit meaningless, useless, and stupid.

and precious little "people" are so judgmental. even clinical psychologists. esp clinical psychologists.

and i do not know what the flying f**k to say. if you stay on the standard script. "hi", "how are you". talking about the weather. then you get standard responses. but it seems kind of meaningless to do that. but if i say what i want to say a lot of the times they act in ways that i did not expect. and a lot of the time, their response is much more unfavorable than i would have imagined my wrongful statements justified.

furthermore, double standards

hypocrisy

egocentrism

I guess that maybe I should have tried to interact more ,but the truth is I'm clueless about the process of interaction. If there's a group when and how do you make the move to become involved in the group? I never know what to say and when. For me I'm very much reliant on someone choosing to include me in the group ,being spoken to, and then replying as best I can. The trouble is that's rarely happened.
None of it comes naturally to me.

I can identify with it.

I've often wanted friends and social interaction. I don't know where to start. People seem like aliens to me most the time.

I also focus more on the exercise as well.

No matter what the group activity, I'm always geared towards doing my own thing my own way.

Probably the only group activity I do correctly is watching a movie in theater. Don't talk and tune out everyone in the group? Yeah, I can manage that.

I can't identify with the exercise part, but I completely identify with going somewhere to do something and not do any type interaction, just focusing on what I'm there to do.
It certainly isn't something that bothers me, it's a given to me, natural. I wanna do my own thing my own way on my own. Often I'm not even conscious about other people being there unless they are noisy so they bring me out of focus or prevent me from concentrating. I just tune them out naturally, like we're on different frequencies.