Is there any other non-binary people here?

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Hi! I'm NB, but significantly fluid towards being agender/genderless. I've seen the community's word to describe this as "genderflux" but I find it personally unnecessary/obscure, and (irrationally?) fear it'll be mocked or something like the microlabel trends on tumblr where people go too heavy with the Greek and Latin roots, so I don't use it in virtually any context.

I dont mind the microlables... They have a good place for trying to describe my experience to insiders who already understand what NB is etc...

I often joke though and tell people that "to the muggles I am genderqueer"... because I find that is sufficient to explain to someone who has never heard of all of our hundreds of different genders who I am and how to treat me with respect. It gives just enough notice "don't assume I want to be treated certain ways because of my gender, and don't expect me to behave as expected"

I'm NB, though a more "specific" label is still unclear to me. I feel agender, genderfluid, genderqueer, demigirl at times. I guess the problem is that I look and dress totally like a woman. Everyone definitely views me as a woman. Sometimes I don't care, sometimes it bothers me a lot. I mostly just wish everyone would stop caring about gender labels and treat people as individuals, no need to assume anything because of how someone looks.

I'd consider myself an androgyne or a "demiboy" (quotation marks because I don't like the term; I prefer "nb boy"). I'm AMAB and go by he/they pronouns. I'd consider myself to have a balance of masculine and feminine traits, and I feel the most comfortable when I look androgynous. I'm afraid of my behavior being read in an overly "masculine" light, like if I talk loud and interrupt people I don't want them to think that I'm being aggressive or dominant. Sometimes I think I could get more into a femme presentation and wish it was more accepted to wear "female" outfits in public, and other times I feel comfortable just looking like a guy with kind of a 90s indie aesthetic. It varies from day to day, but an androgynous nature is what I keep going back to.

Yeah & I don' really think anyone including myself takes it seriously. I'm a pretty normal guy in most ways but the reality doesn't fit that archetype.

Telling people in L&D here didn't go so great.

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-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

^ we're not sure what you're telling or wanting.

Well I'm none too excited about the process of finding out for sure but there's a chance I've got an extra chromosome or just weird autism phenotype stuff associated with physical gender expression.

I'm wishing the girls in my life recognized more how much I prefer just being around them on equal terms.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

^ so you think you're some kind of weird reject now?

Welcome to my world.

However, how you see you isn't necessarily how other people see you.

I guess it's not like I ever didn't.

I suppose you're right that my friend sees me as more male than even I might.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

My partner sees me as me, not a freak.

I'd say that's how 10 or so close friends see me so I'm trying to pay more attention to them.

I'm not really image conscious anyway, it's more important to do good things with people I love than to be a perfectionist.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

When I signed up on the website, I noticed there were only two genders, it made me a little sad. It truly shows how non conforming genders are not recognized.

I'm a non-binary male.

Yes, Non-Binary person here

i am nonbinary and dfab (designated female at birth).