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Crazy?
I chose my sexuality. 22%  22%  [ 17 ]
I did not choose my sexuality. 78%  78%  [ 62 ]
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03 Jun 2007, 3:39 pm

well, Kris 94,
just understand sexuality is a continum, a spectrum, just like autism has a spectrum, so does sexuality. and like when a prism splits light and there is the color spectrum you can see there are far more color options than just a red 'gay' or a purple 'straight' because there are so many colors in between you can be!


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03 Jun 2007, 7:55 pm

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No, people don't chose to be gay!

That is a remark made by religion since thousands of years ago written in the Penthateuc, which was at a time of human ignorance, in which people believed the world was flat, they believed sick people were possesed by evil spirits, they believed God is a man, so men should be first and women second.

Centuries later, religion still makes that argument, which at the 21 century is Ridiculous, things have changed, humankind had advanced in science and technology, and still believing that gay people are evil is crap and pure IGNORANCE.

Actually that is one of the reasons that I questioned religion dogma a few years ago.

I am straight, am I allowed to say all of this? :oops:

Soph I sympathize with you for your feelings about religion
maybe they need to change this, they had change a lot of things with time, so why not change this view?


No, I don't think sexual orientation is a choice.

Your use of the word religion seems too vague. There are all sorts of religions that embrace all types of sexuality including some Christian denominations, Episcopal, to name one.



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03 Jun 2007, 8:02 pm

spdjeanne wrote:
greenblue wrote:
No, people don't chose to be gay!

That is a remark made by religion since thousands of years ago written in the Penthateuc, which was at a time of human ignorance, in which people believed the world was flat, they believed sick people were possesed by evil spirits, they believed God is a man, so men should be first and women second.

Centuries later, religion still makes that argument, which at the 21 century is Ridiculous, things have changed, humankind had advanced in science and technology, and still believing that gay people are evil is crap and pure IGNORANCE.

Actually that is one of the reasons that I questioned religion dogma a few years ago.

I am straight, am I allowed to say all of this? :oops:

Soph I sympathize with you for your feelings about religion
maybe they need to change this, they had change a lot of things with time, so why not change this view?


No, I don't think sexual orientation is a choice.

Your use of the word religion seems too vague. There are all sorts of religions that embrace all types of sexuality including some Christian denominations, Episcopal, to name one.



unitarian is another one, if i'm not mistaken.



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05 Jun 2007, 2:44 pm

skafather84 wrote:
huh huh 6 and 9


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05 Jun 2007, 4:52 pm

Kris94 wrote:
anyway, i am who i am and if i am gay, i just have to acept it. :) :oops:


That's right! It's nothing to be ashamed of. Just wait and see, then make up your mind - no pressure!


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02 Jun 2010, 9:01 pm

calandale wrote:
I know that the current popular claim is
that people DON'T choose. I'm not willing
to accept this. I suspect (from my own experiences
in matters of desire) that these issues are
decided by a combination of experiential
factors. So far, this doesn't indicate choice,
but I've noticed that one can "get used" to
aspects which wouldn't normally be attractive.
To the point where they become arousing...



So when did you sign on the dotted line declaring that you'd chosen to be straight?

nb you can choose to label yourself as gay, but not to be gay.


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02 Jun 2010, 9:03 pm

3.5 year dead necro thread.


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02 Jun 2010, 9:58 pm

I didn't choose my sexuality (and I believe in God, if that matters to the OP). I won't say that some people don't, though. Honestly, there are times that I have been physically attracted to a girl. But thinking about it I know that I would never want to have sex with one or be in a relationship with one, I am not comfortable with that emotionally.



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03 Jun 2010, 6:05 am

TheMachine1 wrote:
The debate is very easy for me as I do not think people have free will.


You just had to say that, didn't you?

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03 Jun 2010, 6:13 am

If sexuality is a choice (remember what Fraud said about the sexual object) then it is a subconscious decision that the child or teenager makes without knowing. It is something set by the onset of puberty. I believe all children learn about sexuality as they grow up, then at teenage years they become aware of it.

I think the reason religion has thought it a conscious chioce all these years is because most men and women can probably go both ways. So religion urged most people to make the "right" choice. Except that there are some amongst us who are either 100% straight or 100% gay.

That is what I think anyway.



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03 Jun 2010, 2:31 pm

All the women I know choose asexuality for me. :x


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03 Jun 2010, 4:28 pm

not a choice.


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04 Jun 2010, 6:47 am

It's a preference. *shrug*


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04 Jun 2010, 7:35 am

I've always been adamant that people can't help what they're attracted, up until my college years. It seems women are more fluid in their sexuality, and I actually think some guys choose to be gay.