This doesn't make sense to me

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The dates don't really mean a whole lot if they don't lead to anything though. Most of the guys that I met lost interest once they met me and 1 stood me up. The 2 that stayed interested seemed desperate. I also have over 800 likes (not sure if it's really that many or not), but they don't really seem to mean much either. A lot of the ones that like me don't send messages. I tried initiating with a few and only one replied, but the conversation didn't last. A lot of them initiate and talk a little, but eventually stop. Then there were some that I didn't feel interested in or I wouldn't know what to say to them. Part of it might be that I sometimes take a while to reply or I lose track, but I think there's something missing in me that makes other women attractive for this to happen so much.

Also, I've never had a guy give me a gift on a first date. I did thank him and everything, but it doesn't feel quite right. How could he know if he would like me to even buy me a gift? It feels like something that I shouldn't get unless it's from someone who knows that they like me. It also makes me really uncomfortable when I feel like I'm being put up on a pedestal. Especially by someone who hardly even knows me.

I'm not really creeped out by it. I just feel like maybe when he did that he had an idea about me that wasn't real. He doesn't know what I'm like. I don't feel like I should get gifts from someone who doesn't even know if they like me.

I dunno slw, from what you describe; things really don't make sense.

It seems you lack the "sex appeal" factor - I strongly believe in that.

Ever tried other demographies? Other than Whites?

It can be conversational ability rather than "sex appeal". If you're meeting guys that want a reationship rather than a hookup thdn it doesn't matter how attractive one is, if yhe conversation doesn't flow and is difficult then it is gard to create a connection.

What you're saying reminds me of a couple of friends I have. I can relate myself from a non online dating perspective. Guys find me attractive, but things kind of petter off because I'm so flipping awkward.

These lasses are lovely, but even I find them a bit difficult to converse with. Not sure how men find them. They are single. They just have a very dry way of talking. A bit awkward and clipped. They come over a bit condescending, but I do think that's because they are shy and anxious and are just very matter of fact in their manner.

they can come over like school teachers rather than friendly. I don't know if I'm like that, but I may be,

I assure you that it's all about the sex appeal.

You're such a know it all with your posts though. Your'e not actually offering her any helpful advice. You're just like, "I understand and no one else does. This is the thing. I won't actually offer any actual advice though. I'll just make a blunt statement." It's a put down in that you're making yourself look intellectually and socially superior.

Knowing what might be the problem is helpful.