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wrongcitizen
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02 Jun 2017, 2:09 am

I have many problems when it comes to bullying, but two of them specifically are when I need to insult and what kind it needs to be to stop their bombardment, and how serious I should be. Should I laugh and make a funny self depreciating comment or go all out on them with insults of their gender, race, call them disgusting degenerated creatures or whatever. (I'm not a racist, so I really dislike using these kinds of things against people, but it seems to work because that's what people are most conscious about). Oh, and I have empathy, unlike a lot of people who are my age, so I feel bad when I insult people, but I want and need to liberate myself from their "colonization".

So here's the scenario. I'm stuck next to these people on a daily basis, and moving away isn't an option as I would have to move away from anyone (People naturally hate me, it's just a quality), so everywhere I go I'm insulted and belittled. I want to fight back and give myself freedom and choice, but I'm not sure how to do that. When I get in confrontations I lose control over my muscles and I become twitchy, my mouth sags down like I'm making a frown, and my eyes become red and watery. I know it's a crying mechanism but it's physical so I'm usually not aware of it but it's pointed out. I also swallow and sometimes tears come out but I'm usually not aware of it, I usually think the tears are caused by something in my eye then I realize it was from an insult. This is unrelated to the AS I think, but it could be a side effect of AS.

So what should I do? How do I stop the bullying and power displays. I don't like being put at the bottom, it is a relinquishment of my freedom and it's against the founding of the principles of the US. We all have freedoms, so how do I gain mine? I'm tired of being forcefully lodged into the base of the social pyramid, and I want to stand up and place the bullies down where they should be in accordance to proper moral standing. How do I approach this? I don't want to run from it anymore, because it will, and does, keep reappearing.



danieldoesnotexist
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02 Jun 2017, 2:43 am

By either insulting them back, or punching them. This isn't 7th grade, self deprecating jokes aren't going to make them laugh.


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wtf


wrongcitizen
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02 Jun 2017, 3:23 am

I can't even tell if they're joking or not.

And they are allowed to punch me but if I even raise my hand above them without touching them I get expelled. Just the system I guess...



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02 Jun 2017, 3:45 am

It's a long time since I had to deal with bullies but the most efficient method I found was ignoring them and feeling superior. Insulting back only escalated the thing and punching usually ended with troubles. But when I knew that THEY are wrong it became quite easy to ignore them. Then they didn't have fun - what's funny about being ignored? - and finally stopped.

The other way I love to use is specially efficient against ironic comments: simply ignore the irony. Last time I was teaching students while wearing my favorite home slippers. 'Nice slippers' - shouted one of them. 'I totally agree, for the first time I saw them on a shelf of a supermarket I fell in love with them and then I knew they must be mine :heart: ' - I replied enthusiastically. I knew it was irony but simply ignored it. None of the students have ever since dared to comment my look :twisted:


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02 Jun 2017, 7:45 am

If someone is punching you that is assault and I would suggest reporting it to the authorities. Sounds like a restraining order may be needed if you are in frequent contact with these people. Kind regards. Shark


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02 Jun 2017, 8:08 am

It would be wrong to insult anyone on account of their gender for many reasons.


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