He won't stop texting me and its becoming weird

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Last week I went to an overnight camp/transition program for teens and young adults with disabilities. It basically taught independent living skills such as cooking, budgeting, and we did other fun activities too. I met a lot of new friends and we all exchanged contact info.

One of the guys there starts texting me an hour after I got home on the last day. It starts out fine but then he starts calling me beautiful, saying all this stuff, and then confessing that he likes me. I was very flattered, but I really don't feel the same way. I told him right away that I didn't feel the same. He told me he understood and he isn't mad. We still text but the way he texts me is a little obsessive and weird. If I don't answer within 10 minutes, he'll keep bombarding me with messages or say "answer me". Or he'll send the same message over again till I respond. I charge my phone for 30 mins and I come back to 6+ messages, half of which say "answer me", "please message back", or "I saw you on Instagram/Facebook/Snapchat etc". I got creeped out by the last one cuz I feel like I'm being monitored/stalked. He may or may not be on the spectrum as well as a speech impediment/physical disability, judging by his behaviour.

I am in contact with some others from the program, we are planning a meetup next month. Not sure how I would feel if he was there. I don't know if blocking him is a bit extreme, if I do he might tell the others and then its gonna be awkward when we see each other next month. I don't have feelings for him (and I made that clear), but I don't want to upset him either. Should I block him, ignore the texts, or tell him not to text me so much?

I have a friend who at first said he was too old for me but then was madly in love with me and ready to fly me into the US to be with him... I ended up with another guy instead and then left the other guy, but this guy claimed to be waiting for me the whole time and then he was asking for sexual pics of me even after he got a long-term girlfriend and had had her for a long time. So you NEVER know who you can or can't trust. It also turned out I couldn't trust the person I was with for a while; he treated me like crap behind my back even when we were still together (gossip, name-calling behind my back, assumptions made about me, terrible things said).

He does sound like he has a loose screw or two. I'd suggest you disconnect from him - somehow I can only see bad things following if you don't.

I had a friend who lived a very sheltered life because her parents looked at her disabilities and were constantly afraid of her "Getting hurt," so they lived in an area that was isolated from society and she was very lonely. When she would meet someone, my friend became very clingy and would call and text them excessively. So I ended up having to cut her from my life because she expected me to spend every minute of my life making her happy.

I had tried to set boundaries for her many times but she didn't listen so I cut her out of my life. You could try telling him that you need space and not to text you so much. If he continues to contact you, then you can either block him or call the police because this is getting to the levels of harassment.

In my situation, I had known my friend for 8 year before cutting it off with her. Anyway, Boofle has a very good point about meeting people and give out your number right away.


This is off topic Boofle but is that Alucard in as your avatar? Hellsing is the best anime around

When you're in this sort of situation, you dont need to do a single thing. You dont even need to read the txts. Delete them before reading if you want.

Just block him.

OP here, thanks for all your responses!!
I have muted notifications from him on all social media and text, as well as put him on the restricted list on my social media as I do not wish to be monitored by him. I haven't blocked him entirely cuz I know he's gonna call me out on it when/if I see him next month for the group meetup.

I was texting one of the other girls from the program about it and she said that he would say similar things if she didn't respond, minus a confession about being interested in her romantically(I didn't tell her about that part). She kind of excuses it cuz he has a physical disability and speech impediment, and probably AS/autism. If he was NT of course she would probably label him as a creep.

He wants everyone to come to his house sometime in August for the meetup and I am trying to find a way to get out of it. I would rather it be in a public place and not in his house in particular.