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sly279
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26 Oct 2017, 12:31 am

So i dont know why not.

Firstly today a girl liked me this is her what she’s doing in life section she only has two sections.

In the process of leaving one job to start school to be a CNA. While in school I will be Nannying for 2 young kids, that I have babysat for several years.

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I enjoy being outdoors and keeping busy. I enjoy hiking, shooting, camping, hunting, swimming, working on outside project and riding horses.

She also owns a horse it seems from her pictures. She’s also 21 which I’ve been told is too hung for me as I need to date only older women. Her age range says 20-30 so I’ll be too old for her in February anyways.

Why would she like me?

She’s pretty but fat which doesn’t bother me, but just saying so people aren’t like you only go afte thin model types. And can’t share profiles any,ore with OkCupid.

She liked me on oct 16 at latest cause that’s when she was on last. I haven’t been checking

But seems she wouldn’t like me as she’s well off enough to own horses and will be a nurse who makes good money when she finishes.

Though we both like camping hikes and guns , shame:(



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26 Oct 2017, 12:39 am

First of all, stop writing you as yiu.



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26 Oct 2017, 12:59 am

Yes, it's a terrible shame.


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26 Oct 2017, 1:15 am

I’m seeking actual help. I dont know what to do or why she liked me.



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26 Oct 2017, 1:39 am

Send her a message.


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26 Oct 2017, 1:40 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
First of all, stop writing you as yiu.


Second of all don 't let The_Face_of_Boo be your commander and chief and captain of your life.



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26 Oct 2017, 2:14 am

Raleigh wrote:
Send her a message.

And say what?
Her profile is rather slim the two sections is all she has.



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26 Oct 2017, 2:25 am

Ask her about her interests.
Where does she like to go camping/hiking/hunting/shooting?
What does she hunt?
What is her horses name?
What projects has she been working on?
Anything.


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26 Oct 2017, 8:06 am

Yeah....just talk to her Sly, stop overthinking.

21 is not too young for you, man.

My father met his present wife when she was in her 20's, and he was in his 40's.



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26 Oct 2017, 8:10 am

I doubt she will even remember you or any of the guys she "Liked" - remember how 'sausage fest' it is?

So please, don't start your message with something like "Do you remember you liked me 10 days ago?" or "I am sorry I didn't respond to your Like 10 days ago".

It would make you look desperate.



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26 Oct 2017, 8:14 am

She might like you because of your outdoor skills. A complaint of the Girl Scouts is that the girls rarely got to go out camping. When and where I grew up everyone knew how to catch, clean, and cook fish. Some people don't know how to do that.

She wants someone to ride horses with her. I wouldn't know how to do that.



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26 Oct 2017, 8:15 am

ZachGoodwin wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
First of all, stop writing you as yiu.


Second of all don 't let The_Face_of_Boo be your commander and chief and captain of your life.



You forgot to add "and God" and not to bow before me.



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26 Oct 2017, 8:40 am

Well, there are many reasons why a girl would click like on your profile. So why don't you send her pm to say hi and start chatting with her?



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26 Oct 2017, 1:29 pm

Raleigh wrote:
Ask her about her interests.
Where does she like to go camping/hiking/hunting/shooting?
What does she hunt?
What is her horses name?
What projects has she been working on?
Anything.

I shall try but she won’t like me. I don’t hunt and never want to. I have no need to take an animals life. Same reason I don’t fish that and it’s disgusting.



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26 Oct 2017, 1:32 pm

This is what I sent

Hia
What projects have you been working on?
I like to target shoot for fun, what shooting do you like?



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26 Oct 2017, 7:44 pm

sly279 wrote:
I shall try but she won’t like me. I don’t hunt and never want to. I have no need to take an animals life. Same reason I don’t fish that and it’s disgusting.


Yes, I think this is legitimate deal breaker for an outdoors girl that likes to hunt. There isn't much middle ground on issues like this. Which may be why her profile is so short. No sense in talking about anything else other than what is really important to her.