Can You Stop Talking????? Please

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I work in the afterschool program at a catholic school. The kids never stop talking and they are always loud. I think they'd get their homework done faster and get better grades on it if they would just stop talking and playing around. We do roll call everyday and it takes forever because the kids won't be quiet long enough to get it done quickly. Why is it so hard for kids to be quiet for five minutes?

Adults also have difficulty being quiet when a pastor, teacher, or other leadership types are talking. I have seen and heard people in my church talking to each other during mass. I have had classmates in college classes that talked to each other or played on their phones during lectures.

AP-that has to be very aggravating.

It is, especially because it means the teacher may make a generalized comment about the whole class, and say that we're all too noisy or that we're immature or something like that, which upsets me. When I was in school, I developed a hypersensitivity to that and to people talking in general.

Have you pointed out the hypocrisy to your husband?

I am sure what they are talking about is perhaps their interests so maybe to them what we talk about is useless to them? Aspies also seem to think everyone wants to hear about their special interest just like how NTs think everyone wants to hear about theirs which is their personal lives. It goes both ways.

I remember that when I was at school. In the first 2 years of school the kids did sit quietly while the teacher talked, but when kids got to about 7 years old they found it harder to shut up. Actually the boys were more noisier than the girls, but it might be because there seemed to be a lot of shy girls in my class, while the boys seemed more hyper. But both genders became hard to shut up as they grew older.

I don't really notice adults talking over the leader/tutor/boss, though. Often we have meetings at work and everybody mostly knows to be quiet and listen as a group, and same goes for the training sessons we have too. With adult classes and training courses, the tutor is like a friend to the rest, where as a teacher in a classroom full of children is just a "bossy adult" to them.

Kids in college are usually more respectful than kids in high school.

League Girl, I do not talk about my special interests while at work. NTs don't need any sympathizers considering they have most of the world. Please be a little more understanding for those of us drowning in all the endless chatter.

Actually, I talk way too much and I'm an aspie Especially when I'm nervous I feel like I have to keep talking because otherwise the anxiety would be overwhelming. Also, I talk way to much about myself, about how I am bad at stuff and about how I feel bad about this and that. The rest is usually complaining about other things.

Antigone- I'd be cool with listening to you.

No I get it. You think "NT's" as you call other people are worthless pieces of s**t and you hate their guts and want them all to stfu.



Nope it's mostly just garden variety yammering.

Last edited by EzraS on 11 Dec 2017, 2:19 am, edited 1 time in total.

lol every autistic I know talks to themselves.

The book I think about when someone bumps this thread

What's it about?

Kinda sorta. Not quite how I would phrase it but I do dig it. To Ezra. I'm not offended at your paraphrase. I rather fancy it.

This is my own take in what I originally assumed the title was about before I read the posts following it...Hopefully what I'm about to say still relates to the topic somewhat.

People would get annoyed with me because I always talk about Shadow the Hedgehog, the Sonic series and all the other "weird" things I fixate on, including sex. Oh yes, I can talk up hours about that stuff. This was one of the initial reasons I started to go quite in most places, because whenever I opened my mouth it ends up leading me into a negative situation. Like when I first started going to college and tried to make friends. I would be told to "Shut up" "Stop talking about him!" and "No one cares!" It's just when a conversation arises that I'm either uninterested in or have a hard understanding relating to it, I try to incorporate my own life which ends up with Shadow being the center of focus for the most part.

One instance back in 2013 I was with one of my former friends (I still talk to him on Facebook sometimes) at a table in one of the open spaces at the college with some of his friends. I forgot what they were talking about but when I opened my mouth, I'm assuming I mentioned something about Shadow, one of his friends yelled at me to "GO AWAY!" He yelled so loud that everyone else at that area looked over to the table. I was shocked, confused and embarrassed and I felt like breaking into tears but I quietly got my stuff and left to go somewhere far away from the area to be alone.

From some posts I read on here mention that it's common for aspies/autistic people to be so enticed by their "special interest" where it becomes frustrating for them to focus on something else. I find it quite interesting if that is indeed the case.