People act differently when others are around

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I have noticed that people act differently when other people are around. People will only interact with me if there is nobody else around. When the person's buddies come around, I no longer exist to the person. Have any of you experienced this?

Yep...that has happened to me all through my life.

Screw those people who ignore you when the other schmucks arrive!

Once people do that to me, it is over.

Just make sure they meant to do that.

There have been times when people didn’t mean to snub me when they did this. There are times when it was deliberate, though.

People are sometimes just oblivious.

I find that most people do it deliberately. I know it's deliberate when they do it multiple times which is often the case.

Lady Elaine, from Mister Roger’s, was never snubbed.

Everybody respected her—or else

She is pretty awesome

I had it, alot in school, some at work. Is worth checking though, I defs suck at reading people so I don't always know if they are just distracted or ignoring me. I had one girl at school who used to ignore me for a 9months to a year at a time. People are strange I have up trying to figure them out a years ago.

This kind of "two faced" behaviour is common regardless of why someone is thought of as an "outsider". As soon as people get together in a group, they seem to feel the need to conform to that group's opinions and prejudices and will suppress any feelings or opinions of their own that might cause a conflict. If the group consensus is that "person X" is a weirdo who is ripe for bulling or giving the cold-shoulder, group members will all too readily behave that way, even if their private beliefs tell them that it is wrong. This inconsistency of opinions was one of the most mystifying aspects of the people around me when I was growing up - I noticed from a young age people doing it over the most trivial (to me) of things, such as a person's choice of favourite music or sports team.

Yes, I have experienced this a lot. Especially in high school. I try to avoid people who do that to me, if I can.

Yes, it's almost like it's "uncool" to be nice to me, I've found. People in person talk to me only if there is nobody else to communicate with. It hurts, but I think it says more about them than it does about me.

That is why I think most people aren't worth my time.

People don't want to be seen talking with an outsider. People obsess too much about fitting in and being popular.

This is why I always hated getting together with my best friend and her other friends back in high school. When it was just the two of us, it was great, but when a group came along, I was either ignored, or became the "cute, socially clueless dork" whose opinions and thoughts were to be minimized and laughed at in an, "oh isn't she so precious" kind of way.

When autistic people do it, we often call it "passing". The behaviour talked about in this thread is the non-autistic version of "passing"; the main difference being that it is so instinctive for non-autistics that they barely realise that they are doing it, so they are much less likely to question it.

They know they are doing it. A$$holes.