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I was feeling quite ill last night, and my mate became very angry with me; yelling and saying hurtful things (loud voices and yelling really disturb me). Later, after she calmed down she apologized for "venting", but I still don't understand or know what that was all about, or why she was mad at me.
I try to not take it personally, but today I feel very agitated, brittle, anxious, and confused; I don't know what to do. It's really bothered me.

Something feels really, really wrong; but I don't know what it is.

PMS, too much stress... hard to tell. If she apologized, she probably didn't mean all those hurtful things she said.

Thanks; I know, and try not to take it personally. I'm just having a really, really hard day with the 'Alphabet Soup' today.

I don't like it when people take things out on me.

It makes me angry, and promotes the idea that I want to give what I had to take.

It might be worth asking her again why she was angry - because it may be that she's resentful about something and these things tend to get worse if not brought out into the open. Try and find a time when she's calm and ask if there's been anything bothering her.

Thank you.
Yes; we discussed it; she was stressing over work, and had a splitting headache all day. I realize that some of my behaviors can be quite frustrating for her. Because of my tendency to be quite obtuse, we do talk explicitly and check in with each other often. I'd also been experiencing an exacerbation of depression for a few days, which doesn't enhance my coping skills and tends to make me more susceptible to personalizing everything.
Things are much better today.

I'm glad you both kept the lines of communication open.

We have to; I have zero intuition, and I can't magically read her mind. Fortunately she figured that out early on, and she's mature and self-assured enough to say what's on her mind and explicitly ask for what she wants.

My wife expects me to anticipate her needs. I don't anticipate them that well.

Whenever she's cleaning, she gets bitchy. I've walked out a couple of times when she was cleaning.

She's not one for "keeping the lines of communication open."