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How many aspies feel that they are trully not capable or mature enough to have a relationship,i mean I know some will say you can work on yourself get experience in dating ect but i for one feel that i've never felt like i can open up to anyone or be intermit with anyone, and i almost see showing affection as giving in somehow or conforming.I know this is my loss and i believe if i did try starting a relationship I would be frauding that person by acting in a way not normal to me.I'm in my 40's now and did have a few chances when i was younger but wanted to try love ect but everytime i ran the other way almost in fear of being trapped.I'm not moaning or venting but sometimes when people mention about my singleness or not being married i have recently felt like openly stating .that's ok" i'm not capable of forming relationships " I bet if I said that most people would just laugh thinking i was joking but i'm not ,I wonder if any other wp people have openly stated their lack of capability and how it's gone down.

I don’t think I am capable of it either, it’s too much hassle and low on my importance list.

I'm not sure. Some years ago I though I was sure I wanted a relationship, and now I'm still sure I would want one if I had been born NT and without mental health problems. But I wasn't and maybe it's easier to stay single. I sure would have to change many things about myself to be lovable and I'm starting to think that it just isn't worth it.

North Wind has lots of good, rational thoughts and advice.

I'm sure she'd do better than she thinks in relationships.

That's my honest impression.

I only started learning about asd a year ago. Now I understand the difficulties I’ve had with relationships much better & I’ve also embraced celibacy for the emotional well-being of myself & others

I think I'm ready for a relationship and that I'm mature enough, but then again I can never know for sure before I try.

Love is AMAZING! There are wasted relationships in my life but once you find the "One", it's all worth it. I have changed not because I had to, but because it felt better than what I was doing. That relationship is over but I still am a better person because of it. I am 46 and I didn't find her until I was 44 and I will spend the rest of my life trying to get that feeling back. life sucks, people suck, but the right partner makes it all worth doing. Not having to mask as much does wonders for how I feel so finding someone who accepts me for me is key.

I feel like I could be halfway capable if I found just the right girl, and I'm sure she must be out there somewhere, but I've grown tired of looking. I've had a few close calls, but either I would screw it up, or feelings weren't as mutual as I would have liked.

I used to be obsessed with the idea that I needed someone else to be happy, but I think I'm finally comfortable with the idea of being single.

too late for me this life, i'm too close to the exit. but I will have a future lifetime where I marry a brunette and have 2 cute kids.

I desperately want a girlfriend but I don't know anything about how relationships are supposed to work. I doubt I am capable of handling a relationship but I just want to feel loved and appreciated.

^^^join the club MJ btw, welcome to WP