Kayleigh wrote:
I am a teenage girl with Asperger's syndrome and PTSD. I am home-schooled and I do not have any friends. I struggle with social interaction and I have trust issues.
I have a desire to find a boyfriend, but I don't know how to.
I have been told that I am an attractive girl and that I look like Vivien Leigh. My looks are not a problem and, as far as I am aware, my personality is not either. I am highly intelligent and I am caring.
My problem is that I am cripplingly shy.
Does anyone have any tips or ideas which may help me? Or - is there anyone who is willing to be the boyfriend of a nice but demanding girl?
The best way I can think of to maximise your chances of finding a boyfriend and friends too for that matter is to put yourself out there. You could be the most attractive, caring and intelligent person on the planet but if you're home all day and not interacting with other people, it's near impossible to establish connections that will then lead to friendships or relationships, so putting yourself in situations where you're able to interact with others your age is pretty important if you want to expand your social circle.
If you feel you'll have to overcome some of your shyness to feel more comfortable meeting new people then your first step is probably to figure out how to do that. Otherwise you could look into youth groups, interest groups, or anything of that nature where you might meet boys in your age group. I know it can be a bit unnerving throwing yourself into social situations with people you don't know as a newcomer when they've already established rapport with each other, especially if you're going in alone and especially if you're shy or socially anxious, but the reality is if you want to establish social connections, you need to put yourself in social situations.
Best of luck.