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'It must be love': wife-beating a source of pride for some in Mauritania
NOUAKCHOTT (Thomson Reuters Foundation) - Salimata was always told she should be proud to come from a family of wife beaters.
“You’re the daughter of a woman whose husband broke her hands. Your grandmother’s legs were fractured by her husband. You must be loved,” Salimata said, citing her mother’s words.
The 19-year-old woman from Mauritania’s Soninké ethnic group, married to a man who also beats her, said she taught herself to believe what her mother told her.
“I felt like an animal that had to be disciplined,” she said.“As time passed, I came to believe that my husband beats me only when he is at the peak of his love for me.”
Mauritania, a poor, mainly Muslim nation, has deep social and racial divides, each group with its unique marriage norms... [D]omestic violence is frowned upon among the Moors, of Arab and Berber descent, it’s seen as an act of love and a accepted practice for Soninkés, said social researcher Sidi Boyada, an advisor at the ministry of social affairs.
TRADITION
Aichetou Samba is a 60-year-old Fulani grandmother who lives in a modest house in a Nouakchott neighborhood.
“In the past, our girls used to get married at eight years of age, and they usually married their cousins,” she said, coddling one of her grandchildren.
Mauritanian law stipulates “sanity” and “marriageable age” as preconditions for getting married, leaving the door open for early marriage by giving parents the right to decide.
Wearing a colorful scarf that shows her Fulani heritage, Samba smiled and said: “A Fulani woman always takes pride in being beaten by her husband,” and often shares her experiences with other women to show off his love for her.
“This is one of our traditions,” she said.“We see wife-beating as a common and normal practice, which sometimes includes pouring cold water on the wife’s body.”
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