Posting in L&D that L&D is not for you

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I'm curious as to why people who post in here with phrases like

I'll never find someone
It's hopeless for me
I'm done with dating
Trying to find a decent person is pointless
Nobody will ever want me
etc

even bother reading this forum at all, let alone contribute to it?

I'm not suggesting you stop contributing...I'm genuinely interested to know why you come to an advice forum to essentially tell us that our advice is useless? Is it simply venting, or is it overly-dramatic phrasing in order to prompt us to work harder to prove you wrong? Or what?

What is it you want from us, when you say things like this? And if you don't want anything, why do you come here to say it?

Thanks in advance for the insight

(Note: There's a distinction between "it's hopeless" and "it feels hopeless". I'm only referring to the first type of statement.)

I feel it's just people expressing their frustration.

They WANT love and companionship----that's why they come to L & D.

It is not actually "hopeless" for them. And I believe they know that, too, in their hearts.

Because we can!

Why do women take pictures of themself?

Like what?

I don't see how any of that is off topic. People in relationships vent about the everyday between each other all the time, why are you saying it's weird for singletons to do the same? Absent a SO to talk to we've still got the internet

I don't think this forum should alienate anyone, especially considering the terms of use nobody else reads. All kinds of people come here for help or encouragement but this just reinforces the same inequity we're all looking for relief from.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

I think the pessimistic posts are all seeking solutions in that vein. I'm a tacit optimist and I've still posted my negative thoughts here because there was nowhere else to go, or so my negative side likes to think. People are looking for alternatives to dissociation from their love lives.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

I think that they HOPE that there is a solution but sometimes that hope is so faint or buried deep below other feelings the poster isn’t able to easily accept suggested solutions.

You can’t dissociate from what you don’t have.

But sometimes we have more than we think. None of us are mind readers.

_________________
"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos