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14 Jun 2018, 9:13 am

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Are you all just ranting to rant, or are you all interested in how to improve your chances?
It looks like you all are just ranting to rant. Carry on, and let me know if you change your minds.
Is the thread title "Rant About Being Single" or "Help Me I Need A Life Coach"?
The former, of course ... which does not necessarily exclude the latter.

Rant on!


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12 Aug 2018, 12:11 am

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If all men in the world agree to stop asking out women and making the first move then things would change to our favor.

My only successful flings/relationships were with those who chased me.


This would be brilliant. Woman seem to be a lot more picky and tend to have more social intelligence making it easier to find a compatible guy to ask. So it would be likely the guy would accept her. Unfortunately it's not gonna happen. Ever.



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12 Aug 2018, 12:40 am

We're in an odd place right now to be honest. We have this idea about the man chasing, yet, everyone knows that the female is actually the selector. Women are also way more selective than men(this is incredibly well documented).

I think for some men this can feel like being a sales assistant in a clothing store, and in walks this incredibly picky customer, but he won't tell you what he wants or likes. And now you have to run around the store for clothes, to ask him if he like them or not, but he likes none of them.



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12 Aug 2018, 8:47 am

Closet Genious wrote:
We're in an odd place right now to be honest. We have this idea about the man chasing, yet, everyone knows that the female is actually the selector. Women are also way more selective than men(this is incredibly well documented).

I think for some men this can feel like being a sales assistant in a clothing store, and in walks this incredibly picky customer, but he won't tell you what he wants or likes. And now you have to run around the store for clothes, to ask him if he like them or not, but he likes none of them.


How hard is it to figure out that women want the same thing they always have: the best possible mate.

They’re typically going to choose the healthiest/fittest/strongest highest social/economic status mate who’s a provider & protector etc etc. This is not rocket surgery stuff here...


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12 Aug 2018, 9:18 am

Well I must be doing it all wrong then as Ive never thought about that 'typical' list you have posted. Its always been about a connection thats difficult to describe, but it never mattered to me about any of those things.



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12 Aug 2018, 9:18 am

goldfish21 wrote:
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We're in an odd place right now to be honest. We have this idea about the man chasing, yet, everyone knows that the female is actually the selector. Women are also way more selective than men(this is incredibly well documented).

I think for some men this can feel like being a sales assistant in a clothing store, and in walks this incredibly picky customer, but he won't tell you what he wants or likes. And now you have to run around the store for clothes, to ask him if he like them or not, but he likes none of them.


How hard is it to figure out that women want the same thing they always have: the best possible mate.

They’re typically going to choose the healthiest/fittest/strongest highest social/economic status mate who’s a provider & protector etc etc. This is not rocket surgery stuff here...

Well, I'm a woman and I did not marry the healthiest/fittest/strongest/highest SES mate. I didn't even try to date those types. Because, what would we talk about? I looked for guys who shared interests with me and seemed likely to be loyal and loving. The second marriage I picked better than the first, but with both marriages I'm an exception to the "rule" (which I don't see as true) that goldfish stated.


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12 Aug 2018, 11:11 am

^^ & ^, Uuh, you're both autistic. Typical NT social rules don’t exactly apply. But in general, the list I posted is a fair representation of what typical women want, and the phrase “best possible mate,” kind of applies to everyone - only your criteria are atypical because you are.


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12 Aug 2018, 12:22 pm

In that case, maybe all the lonely single Aspie guys should make a bigger effort to meet ladies on the spectrum. Just a thought.


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12 Aug 2018, 12:34 pm

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In that case, maybe all the lonely single Aspie guys should make a bigger effort to meet ladies on the spectrum. Just a thought.


That's ridiculous, the probability of meeting one in any given geographical area is very low.



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12 Aug 2018, 3:29 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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In that case, maybe all the lonely single Aspie guys should make a bigger effort to meet ladies on the spectrum. Just a thought.


That's ridiculous, the probability of meeting one in any given geographical area is very low.

No, THAT's ridiculous. With technology we have much better chances now to zone in on a person with particular characteristics.


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13 Aug 2018, 12:43 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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In that case, maybe all the lonely single Aspie guys should make a bigger effort to meet ladies on the spectrum. Just a thought.


That's ridiculous, the probability of meeting one in any given geographical area is very low.

I've met lots of young women on the spectrum in my area!


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13 Aug 2018, 12:45 am

BeaArthur wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Closet Genious wrote:
We're in an odd place right now to be honest. We have this idea about the man chasing, yet, everyone knows that the female is actually the selector. Women are also way more selective than men(this is incredibly well documented).

I think for some men this can feel like being a sales assistant in a clothing store, and in walks this incredibly picky customer, but he won't tell you what he wants or likes. And now you have to run around the store for clothes, to ask him if he like them or not, but he likes none of them.


How hard is it to figure out that women want the same thing they always have: the best possible mate.

They’re typically going to choose the healthiest/fittest/strongest highest social/economic status mate who’s a provider & protector etc etc. This is not rocket surgery stuff here...

Well, I'm a woman and I did not marry the healthiest/fittest/strongest/highest SES mate. I didn't even try to date those types. Because, what would we talk about? I looked for guys who shared interests with me and seemed likely to be loyal and loving. The second marriage I picked better than the first, but with both marriages I'm an exception to the "rule" (which I don't see as true) that goldfish stated.


Wait so what it mean if I'm dating someone with whom I have almost no shared interest?


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13 Aug 2018, 7:42 am

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Wait so what it mean if I'm dating someone with whom I have almost no shared interest?

I can't say, because you're not dating me. Lots of people date someone with whom they have no shared interest. I'm just saying, I'm not one of them.


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13 Aug 2018, 8:39 am

Whenever I see a couple walking by or sitting, being cute, I cant help but get a mix of feelings.
1: "aw, cute. i want that" (jealousy)
2:"f**k them and their happiness"(anger)
3: "goddamnit, i'll never have that"(sadness)

anybody else have that or am i just a special kind of crazy? xD



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13 Aug 2018, 12:08 pm

RetroGamer87 wrote:
BeaArthur wrote:
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Closet Genious wrote:
We're in an odd place right now to be honest. We have this idea about the man chasing, yet, everyone knows that the female is actually the selector. Women are also way more selective than men(this is incredibly well documented).

I think for some men this can feel like being a sales assistant in a clothing store, and in walks this incredibly picky customer, but he won't tell you what he wants or likes. And now you have to run around the store for clothes, to ask him if he like them or not, but he likes none of them.


How hard is it to figure out that women want the same thing they always have: the best possible mate.

They’re typically going to choose the healthiest/fittest/strongest highest social/economic status mate who’s a provider & protector etc etc. This is not rocket surgery stuff here...

Well, I'm a woman and I did not marry the healthiest/fittest/strongest/highest SES mate. I didn't even try to date those types. Because, what would we talk about? I looked for guys who shared interests with me and seemed likely to be loyal and loving. The second marriage I picked better than the first, but with both marriages I'm an exception to the "rule" (which I don't see as true) that goldfish stated.


Wait so what it mean if I'm dating someone with whom I have almost no shared interest?


Opposites attract.


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