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kraftiekortie
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09 Apr 2018, 12:36 pm

I don't see why you can't remain friends with her----unless you start wanting to press her to become your girlfriend again. I do know of friendships which lead to romance. But you have to respect her space.

If you have feelings---then it's okay. It's not okay to try to be forceful with them, though.

Please note that I am not saying that you are being forceful with her---or that you are so inclined.



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09 Apr 2018, 1:22 pm

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I don't see why you can't remain friends with her----unless you start wanting to press her to become your girlfriend again. I do know of friendships which lead to romance. But you have to respect her space.

If you have feelings---then it's okay. It's not okay to try to be forceful with them, though.

Please note that I am not saying that you are being forceful with her---or that you are so inclined.

I have respected her space. I haven’t said anything relating to romance with her since that one thing I sent in message. Just having friendly conversation.



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09 Apr 2018, 1:28 pm

Then you're doing the right thing.



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09 Apr 2018, 8:29 pm

I’m curious - you broke up with her because you were going away to college. Did you discuss the possibility of breaking up with her first, ASK her if she wanted to break up or remain a couple, or did you just TELL her that it was over? If the decision was solely yours that was selfish and I think she would have the right to be offended.



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09 Apr 2018, 9:01 pm

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I’m curious - you broke up with her because you were going away to college. Did you discuss the possibility of breaking up with her first, ASK her if she wanted to break up or remain a couple, or did you just TELL her that it was over? If the decision was solely yours that was selfish and I think she would have the right to be offended.

I remembered when I told her. She understood why I was breaking up with her and I think she agreed.



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10 Apr 2018, 1:47 am

Personally I don't think it's unreasonable to break up when going off to college. The two individuals are apart and are doing a lot of growing that they need to do. It does not have to mean that the break up is permanent. If anything, it prevents the relationship from souring due to unfaithfulness.



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10 Apr 2018, 2:20 am

Chronos wrote:
Personally I don't think it's unreasonable to break up when going off to college. The two individuals are apart and are doing a lot of growing that they need to do. It does not have to mean that the break up is permanent. If anything, it prevents the relationship from souring due to unfaithfulness.

But I haven’t even been in college since October. And now back home. But we’re just friends now. And hopefully through progressing. We can be a couple again. I’m not going to keep bringing it up to her. Even though I haven’t since that one sticker I sent her.



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10 Apr 2018, 7:06 pm

Corny wrote:
But I haven’t even been in college since October. And now back home. But we’re just friends now. And hopefully through progressing. We can be a couple again. I’m not going to keep bringing it up to her. Even though I haven’t since that one sticker I sent her.


As 'Corny' as this sounds, I think you should leave the Glee stuff at home and pick up from where you left off.. when you become an actor or some Shakespearean hero out of a play some day.
You were living the dream once, but now its died on you, so cut back on some of the story before you die of real stage fright. I wouldn't start stalking her either.. maybe just glean out what portable app's she's on, and use the ones you like to enhance the concepts of social choice.



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13 Apr 2018, 4:33 pm

I actually have a update regarding me and my ex. She wanted me to have lunch with her at her work tomorrow afternoon. But was postponed because she has to work. But I don't think it's really considered a date. But god I wish it was.



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13 Apr 2018, 4:36 pm

Seems promising....



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13 Apr 2018, 4:40 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Seems promising....

I don't really think it's like a romantic date or anything. But I wish it was.



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13 Apr 2018, 5:02 pm

Have you told her you’re sorry that you broke off with her?



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13 Apr 2018, 5:04 pm

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Have you told her you’re sorry that you broke off with her?

No and this lunch thing was going to be tomorrow but she has to work. And she's not really online a lot and we don't have enough time for big conversations like that. And I don't wanna talk about anything romantic with her because I don't want her to feel awkward or anything.



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13 Apr 2018, 7:40 pm

I’ve just realized you’ve been home since Hallowe’en! That’s five months. Have you only just recently trying to contact her?



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13 Apr 2018, 7:45 pm

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I’ve just realized you’ve been home since Hallowe’en! That’s five months. Have you only just recently trying to contact her?

We’ve talked. But as friends.