Had a bad experience at an Autistic event today
That makes sense. The same goes for parking spaces, people tend to park next to each other. I guess it’s security.
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Glad to have helped; hopefully you can now focus on the positives of the film you were watching c:
And you were right, since I wrote the email and let the lady know, I am able to really focus on the fact that I really liked the movie very much and I can really enjoy that memory. Thank you so much.
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There is also this thing in East London and Essex where there are lots of empty seats around in public transport and people will sit right behind you or often next to you. BirdInFlight experienced the same thing. I think it’s a local thing here. Why people do it, I have no idea.
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Hello SB, it only makes sense in a safety in numbers, huddle together for warmth, or even grooming the nits off of each other, kind of way. Obviously none of these are needed in a modern cinema, and the choice of wanting a little personal space should be respected. You would think that being part of a Autism group would mean better degree of consideration, not less. I think it's a good idea to have a chat about it now that you are more calm.
I went my ADHD meetup last week and there was very few spaces left at the table, one of the last to sit down chose the space next to me. Then pulled out a bucket of nasty smelling chicken wings and legs and spent the next half an hour munching away.
Hello SB, it only makes sense in a safety in numbers, huddle together for warmth, or even grooming the nits off of each other, kind of way. Obviously none of these are needed in a modern cinema, and the choice of wanting a little personal space should be respected. You would think that being part of a Autism group would mean better degree of consideration, not less. I think it's a good idea to have a chat about it now that you are more calm.
I went my ADHD meetup last week and there was very few spaces left at the table, one of the last to sit down chose the space next to me. Then pulled out a bucket of nasty smelling chicken wings and legs and spent the next half an hour munching away.
I see what you mean though about the instinctive huddle thing. That makes sense to understand it that way.
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Usually when I'm on a bus or at the cinema, people would rather sit away from strangers if they can. But when there are parents with children, they seem to want to huddle near other people for some reason. And most childless people like myself would rather not have to be seated next to small children when there are plenty of other empty places. But parents seem to think "hey hey, I've got kids with me, I have more priority than anyone else because I've got kids!"
If I were in the cinema situation like the OP, I would have moved. I know it doesn't sound right to have to be the one to move when someone else is bothering you, but should plan A fail (which is asking them politely to stop kicking your seat), you've got 3 options; you can either make a scene, put up with it or move to another seat. I'm too nice-natured to make a scene, and I shouldn't have to put up with it, so I'd just get up and move somewhere else where I can sit and enjoy the movie in peace.
As Aspies have pointed out to me on this site before, you can't control the behaviour of other people but you can control your own behaviour.
But I do understand why you would be feeling the way you do. I mean, if there was ample empty seats where the man and his autistic son could have sat, why choose the seat right behind you if he knows his son may be a bother like that? It makes me insane with questioning the mentality of some people.
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I get things like this (though not as bad) all the time with kids behaving badly, and you expect the parent to say something or at least apolergise and they don't. It makes me want to slap them, the parent, I mean.
I think the idea about someone being assigned for autistics on their own if there's a problem is really good one.
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