redbrick1 wrote:
DW, everyone's posts minis one, was actually pretty good. Everyone identified what the problem was. I have a couple of issues with OP's relying of events:
First claimed that her dropped out in the 9th grade than claim he has his GED, btw, one cannot get his or her GED until they turn 18, so that is patently false.
First claimed her son was a NAZI then changed it to " he is just fascinated with WW2"
Claimed he threatenes to kick his sister with severe disabilities changes to he is just afraid of her
You came here asked for sympathy and when you did not get it you changes the narrative.
Yes I am triggered
I know a lot of people on this forum have pretty decent spidey senses, but be careful with conclusions based on what you THINK you know as fact. GED rules vary by state AND there are tests similar to the GED that have different names, but for convenience people call them GEDs. My daughter is tested out, high school equivalent diploma, in California, at the age of 17. The official name isn't GED, but heck if I can remember what the official name is. She has spent much of the past year sick and in November, at the school's suggestion, she took an equivalency test and passed easily. I only know that by law employers must consider it the equivalent of a high school diploma, and that it is good enough to move onto community college. The test wasn't hard so I'm not at all ready to jump to the conclusion the OPs son couldn't have tested out as a freshman. But dang I can't come up with the official name right now. My poor memory doesn't change reality: plenty of teens, my daughter included, under the age of 18, have that piece of paper.
As for the other points, in high stress situations, I don't think it is unusual for a parent's perception to change from day to day. I was like that, too, as we tried to figure out what was going on with our daughter. Until I was able to emotionally detached, my perceptions were all over the place. That is one of many different reasons I noted to the OP that she may need to emotionally separate herself and basically stop thinking like a mom. Watching your child go through the kinds of things she has described, especially when you are exhausted from having another special needs child, plays with your head. Nothing in her softened descriptions changes my instincts or advice; to me, it shows how much she loves her son and is trying to stay positive, and the real issue is whether or not that leaves her in a solid place to make decisions about her son right now. When my daughter was in a tough place a lot of the school meetings felt really harsh to me, but separating myself also made me realize that many of the harsh seeming suggestions were actually extremely sound. It's just hard to believe that the road for your child can be changing that rapidly in front of you and, even when you do believe it, to realize it is the best road. It's just all. so. very. hard. Don't expect perfect consistency or even sanity from a parent in the middle of all that.
Do I think her softened stance underestimates the risk with her son? Yes, I do. It is very easy to underestimate the risk with your own child. I often have. The kids usually flow between moods and perceptions to a much bigger extreme than the parents do. But understanding that doesn't yield a super clear path, either. The interest in a harmful ideology needs to be squashed, but a lot of proposed actions have the potential to backfire, and its going to be tricky. So. I stand by my instincts and advice in my earlier posts, and I will continue to take what the OP writes at face value. The situation is too tricky to risk her fleeing from help because we've been too quick to judge.
What you are talking about is the California High school Proficiency Exam. And yes I believe that you mean well and I understand your main thesis. But I am also a special education teacher for over ten years. This is not just a personal bias but a professional opinion. I have seen parents who do not regulate their kids behavior, either they can't or they won't. It has a determinantal effect on the child both emotionally and educationally. And of course there are extenuating circumstances that make it impossible to control a kid that is beyond the parents control and I have seen that. But often the childs behavior is a direct result of the parent did.
This case seems very different, she left and in some cases said something completely different. This implues some form pf manipulation, which I despise amd have no time for.
And for the record, the CAHSPE is not a GED equivalent. And most states require you to be 18, but you are right in Ohio, you can be 16.
23 May 2018, 2:40 pm
