How and where do I find a boyfriend?
goldfish21
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It is not a turnoff for the decent ones. I’d much rather wait for a guy that has strong morals even if it takes a whole lot longer to find them.
Having sex is a lack of strong morals. I find that comment insulting. I have strong morals, I’m loyal, kind, caring compassionate. I don’t want to wait years for something that’s a big part of a relationship, I’m not asexual. Most men will want sex within 2-6 dates. I’d probably wait month or so myself but years until we marry only to find out she never wants sex or is asexual or incompatible sexually then we’d need a divorce no thanks.
Best of luck, maybe try asexual dating sites?
Um, no, not it isn't. Having sex has nothing to do with the strength of one's morals. You, and others, simply have to accept that not everyone lives by the same moral code that you do. Just because someone chooses to have sex doesn't mean they're immoral in the least bit. All it means is that they choose to have sex. That's it, that's all. You're free to do so, or to choose not to have sex, but to project your morals upon others and suggest that they're immoral for not living their life by your moral code is flat out wrong.
Meant isn’t. I was insulted that she seems to state me wanting sex before marriage means I lack strong morals. If you’d read my whole post I’d think you’d realis the mistake. Autocorrect changed it from isn’t to is. I would like to have lots of pre marriage sex. If I somehow managed to get a relationship I doubt I’d ever get married. But it’s all hypothetical for me.
Gotcha. I did read your whole post, but did not realize there was a typo. Thanks for the clarification, sly.
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1 you going leave yours then?
Yes. I'm going to dump her. And them I'm not going to date any other girls. I'll just be single. I don't have enough energy for more dating. I'm tired.
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1 you going leave yours then?
Yes. I'm going to dump her. And them I'm not going to date any other girls. I'll just be single. I don't have enough energy for more dating. I'm tired.
People have disagreements, women in my experience tend to be irrationally and bipolar like, probably not all are but a lot are and it’s confusing, if she hasn’t left you she loves you and will probably come back around after she’s not angry.
If you do dump her you’ll probably find another in less then a month that’s been your history.
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1 you going leave yours then?
Yes. I'm going to dump her. And them I'm not going to date any other girls. I'll just be single. I don't have enough energy for more dating. I'm tired.
People have disagreements, women in my experience tend to be irrationally and bipolar like, probably not all are but a lot are and it’s confusing, if she hasn’t left you she loves you and will probably come back around after she’s not angry.
Yeah, she came back.
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You could start off by posting in one of the Eligible Odd-Bods/Singles threads. As cberg mentioned, there are plenty of single males here...some might even meet your qualifications. I used to use OKCupid a lot, but it's very different today. It's mostly free, though, so it couldn't hurt to try.
22 and single isn't that uncommon, especially for people who are not sexually promiscuous.
Waiting until marriage will turn off a lot of guys (or they might see it as a personal challenge), but I definitely recommend, at the very least, saving it for someone who is worth it.
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Join a chess club, if you enjoy chess. That's a very male centric activity where you are also more likely then in many other communities to find guys more like you. The downside is you might experience some misogyny and condescending behavior. But, regardless of your looks, in that environment, you'll get some attention.
i have no idea, and i honestly don't understand either how to find friends. people say to go to place and do things and meet people but i do this and can't convert people i met in friends or any more deeper connection. i used to make friends at the internet but even this ability i lost. i met my only boyfriend on tinder, we are no longer together but we are good friends, i feel the only reason we managed to create a deeper connection was because in the first few months we couldn't met.
Basics: Join a group of friends that go out; join a mutual interest club; you basically just have to put yourself out there. Women don't need to pursue men--they will come to you if you are even remotely attractive. If you are a shy and timid female, however, you need to be very careful about some of the men that you might end up attracting. Some men are sadists that enjoy mentally (and even physically) abusing sheltered and naive women who do not have the experience to detect them, and such women will often stay in relationships far longer than they should because of this inexperience. Stay away from online dating sites and stick to in-person meetings or introductions through mutual friends, it will save you a lot of future headaches and stalkers!
Only for the shallow loser guys.
A bit harsh don't you think?
I can definitely respect a girl who wants to wait until marriage, only if she is a virgin however.
I am a virgin.
I fully expect to wake up to 10 pages in the thread tomorrow, with random infighting, debates about the sanctity of marriage and a lock by the 11th page.
Yup. I’m surprised it hasn’t happened yet.
That downside doesn’t sound like a very fun outing. I’d rather have no attention than that, yuck!
That downside doesn’t sound like a very fun outing. I’d rather have no attention than that, yuck!
I might be overstating it. I've never been a woman in a chess club, just a man, and most chess players are alright. But, like any competitive activity, it draws in its share of obnoxious blowhards.
That downside doesn’t sound like a very fun outing. I’d rather have no attention than that, yuck!
I might be overstating it. I've never been a woman in a chess club, just a man, and most chess players are alright. But, like any competitive activity, it draws in its share of obnoxious blowhards.
I live chess. Pity there aren’t clubs here that I know of. Maybe I need to make more effort.
I have been focusing on finding fan clubs for my interests (animated comedies). The problem: I have only been able to find online groups, none local, and the fan base for my interests is overwhelmingly male.
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