Successful relationships on the spectrum

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For anyone in a long term relationship, preferably marriage, and happy, how did you do it?

What works for a healthy and successful relationship, and how did you pursue it, with this neurological wiring?

What worked for me was helping my wife get through her LPN nursing program. And her encouraging me to get my driver's license.

Right now, the relationship isn't going so well----but we are still good friends.

Me & my current girlfriend have been living together over 5 & a half years & we would of gotten married a while ago but we're both disabled & it'll screw up her benefits. She's on the spectrum too & sent me a PM after reading lots of posts I made in L&D about what I was wanting in a partner, the way I am within a relationship, & what I have to offer a partner. I've had a horrible time getting women due to my various mental & physical disabilities & the fact that I'm too direct & straight forward. I have a hard time getting the rite meaning of what NT women say & they look for hidden meanings in what I say. I like being supportive within a relationship cuz I have more than my fair share of issues & I know what it's likt to have & not have support. Cass has some similar issues as me & wasn't exactly wanting a relationship but was open to one with the rite guy who would be really supportive of her. We'd both have a hard time living alone & Cass has lived alone before but couldn't handle it & would of moved in with family but she wasn't found of the idea & would of had problems with that. I was stuck living with my parents due to no other options & they resented me living there at my age. So our relationship worked out.

I met my wife when I was your age (17). We just got along really well and had the same views on most everything. We also lived together for about ten years and had our first child before getting wed. 33 years and another child later and we're still together and very happy. I know it's clichéd but she really is my best friend.

Advice:
1) Marry your best friend.
2) Don't go to bed on an argument.

I’m going on 9 years with my wife. I told her on the 2nd date I was weird and my odd behavior patterns. That way she could opt out, or choose to accept what she was in for.

Yeaaaahhh. About that.

Honestly I asked many women out and one day one of them decided to cuddle closer to me. It was a shock, but I am sure glad she did. It might help that she's on the spectrum too.