How common are female aspies who haven't dated yet?

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Sorry. I'm mad about a Canadian actress at the moment who I probably have no chance of ever being with. I sent her a couple of Twitter messages and never got a response. I kind of feel your pain. Unrequited love is a real b***h.

You cannot expect to understand NTs or NDs as a phenotype. Also, ASD is a collection of traits that psychiatry has decided are part of a disorder, and such a basis cannot be used to understand NDs. So, first, you need to define something that has not been biased as a disorder by psychiatry (which is what I've done, and what I call ND). Still, even such concept would not be a phenotype, but a spectrum. Both NT and ND people are on a spectrum and not a phenotype. So, the primary reason why autistic people are so diverse is that the ASD diagnosis is not a useful concept, rather the label can be set on both people that have many NT-traits, and that have many ND-traits.



ND females have other problems in the relationship area than ND males. It's easier for them to find a date and getting sex, but I doubt it is easier for them to get into a good relationship.

Yes theres a lot of inherent problems for ND women in relationships and I think that there should be some serious education for asd females about relationships provided early on in the school system. Specifically about all the things they probably wont realise, and all the pitfalls that come with being neurodiverse. Its not enough to let people find this out through trial and error.

It's harassment. You harassed an actress on Twitter.

I agreed with rdos and you. I seen all ASD and/or ND females in my met who I already told you all who are in relationships or lesbians (lack of singles) they have weird relationships with their boyfriends. I tried to make friends with them first, and they kept pressuring me like how a NT toxic people treats me.

I just wish there is a reset button for my life because it so hard for me to find right people. New people are also toxic too! Couldnt escape this toxic society.

I haven't been diagnosed with Aspergers, but I didn't date until I was 20 years old. And that was only online. When I was 23, I stopped having romantic relationships with men online and was not interested again until the age of 29. I still do not feel like an average adult. I feel younger and much much older in some respects. I began talking with a man on these forums in 2012 who said he had Aspergers and seemed to understand my many difficulties with the adult world. I fell in love with him for mostly that reason, and we have remained together ever since then. I think our little relationship experience before each other was helpful in cementing our bond. If we had been "normal" with regards to dating and having a relationship, perhaps we would not have found the other so reachable, attainable, or attractive.

You got anything better to do, Armchair Lawyer?

I wonder if it bears any resemblance to Sgt Schultz.

Canada's b***h magazine is the perfect example. I read a copy one time and I can't be bothered to read another.

I've literally only dated on Club Penguin.

I'm almost 54 and have never really dated, to speak of.

me, unless you count dating a kid i didn't even like for a few weeks when i was 14 and dumping him by text. since i've been 18 men have only ever wanted to sleep with me. or the ones who were into me just weren't my type. or like they were kinda into me but into another girl more and ultimately choose her because well, i'd choose a mentally stable woman over me too. and i've been pretty isolated these last two years because i've had to survive off benefits. i tried tinder and some men seemed promising but it ultimately fizzled out because i'm not studying or working and that's a turn off to people. i supposed i could broaden my options down to 18 (currently it's at 20, i'm 22) to find someone at my maturity level, problem is most 18 year olds around here blow all their money on drugs and clubbing and that's just eww to me.

Same here when I was at your age and from 18 when move out of home to uni. I am 27 now and unfortunately I don't see much change for people from mid to late 20's. It apparent Gen Y problem these days. So much influence by media and technology feeding and breeding bad personalities.

True, most people my age 30 either have kids or their idea of fun is bars and clubs which means drinking, or just buying alcohol and drinking at home. I have nothing to say to them as I don’t believe in drinking alcohol. I’m lame they say.

Most the dates I got were 19-23 year olds. I’ve dated two women my age. I wish there were more women in benifits like like the her, maybe they’d date men in benefits but probably not. Most women here where I live seem to be highly successful, feminism work d very well on the west coast it seems.

Sly, it is definitely true. I think this is got something to do with culture of western countries. Earlier conversations about how empathetic of foreign women being with someone who are seen as weird, creepy and stereotypical by their domestic peers. Its definitely the Gen Y problem. There so many extroverted people expected us Aspies including myself to be smart like how they see good at communication and social skills to have big label of 'a girlfriend', 'big money job' and high expectations.

In other thread there mentioned about alcohol and party culture for people in their 20's. Of course this has never changed even our parents partied in their 20's but the culture is a lot more reality than stereotyped by media and technology. I think mid 1990's was a shift in Gen Y culture for people in their 20's.

I was at the wedding last night. There were two women around same age as me who are struggling to find their love. They are NTs and confident people. I am not sure what their lives are like but it made me think about expectations from media and stereotypes how and why people struggle to find while competitiveness of personality.

Ok, excuse me! Women aren't allowed to be intelligent and successful then? Or have fulfilling jobs? I'm sure you guys don't mean that.

Now, I'm not a big drinker, I do like a glass of wine now and then, but I don't like hanging out with heavy drinkers either. I'm also not very materialistic and I'm not business minded enough to be "successful". However, I don't think it's too much of an ask to want to be with a partner who meets me in that they're on the same intellectual level as me.

I'm not looking for a "successful" man with a nice house and a nice car. What I want is someone I feel comfortable with and who I can share my interests with.

But I can't be with someone who isn't on the same wavelength as me. It's not about social status. It's about being partners. I've said this before and caused upset, but I can't cope with having to look after someone, especially now my parents are getting older. That would be 3 people to look after.