OK if it so impossible, how did my boyfriend find me?

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Sorry, I have no idea what a chav is. A bogan is someone who drives modified cars with huge exhausts, blows money on stuff with no capital value then has the balls to blame middle class people they don’t even know for the fact they have no money.

Generally speaking, bogans and the middle class don’t like each other or interrelate much.

My last flat had a bogan in it and her trashy brother ransacked my bedroom because he was jealous at the fact I’ve worked hard for 10 years, saved my money and bought a place. That guy was born a loser and will die a loser, never worked a day in his life. Lost over $1000 of my possessions. It was the absolute last time I’ll give bogans a chance.

Upper class people only relate to themselves as well.

unless they're kip/cberg kind of guys with a masochistic streak.

so tend to completely avoid them nowdays.

So guess you wouldn’t like me

Middle class people steal too

We would have never met if we didn't meet on okcupid, probably. So yes after failures I met someone on there and well its ended up in a lasting relationship. So IDK that is why it hard for me to believe that its 'impossible' for guys on the spectrum to ever get a relationship. Like my boyfriend is not some social guru, I mean he doesn't even have any friends though we are trying to make some.....yet he attracted me just fine. Just saying I am not the only woman out there who wants someone to fall in love with rather than a provider. The way it is now we will help each other survive..both putting in what we can.

I have even had second thoughts because I think I cannot put enough in.....like I am still working on getting work and such. But thing is he really loves me, so like he wants to be with me even as I work through that...If I broke up with him he would be devastated so I certainly am not staying with him for him to provide for me. I really love him and I think in the hypothetical situation that someone came to do us harm in our apartment....I'd defend him if need be, though logically he is bigger so he might do more defending. But that is the point if everything goes to s**t, which could happen in this country we both have each others backs.

Anecdotal cases like yours don't prove that it's not difficult for other people...

I think the key is to remain positive. I know more adult Aspies in relationships than ones who aren’t. If you’re negative all the time, people won’t want to be around you.

It helps to work on social skills, too, so you can learn appropriate ways to attract a potential love interest. You don’t want to be too aloof or too clingy. He or she would think you don’t care or are desperate/creepy.

Sweetleaf said "we both have each others backs". This is a key point for any successful relationship.

True, but it does more-or-less prove that finding someone is possible ... at least, more possible than finding someone through spamming websites with innumerable threads on the topic of "I Can't Get a Girlfriend" ...

I don’t ever recall Jono did such threads or any complaining posts, he was one of the more positive members before.

But there are some observable realities no one can’t deny, no matter how much you bash struggling guys here.

Anecdotal cases like yours don't prove that it's not difficult for other people. Besides, I find that on sites like WP, female members seem more likely to find a partner than the men, consider how many men claim that they can't find a partner compared to the women.