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This is the second time in two weeks that I have been turned away from the hospital. It happens to me all the time but now it is happening a lot. I try to check myself in for crisis because I keep going into shock from my neighbors blasting their stereos. But the hospital won't let me stay even one night to recover because there is nothing medically wrong with me. I even had a police officer escort me there today. At least they let me sleep for six hours. But I had not even recovered enough to walk yet so they wheelchaired me to my car and sent me home. I ran off the road but made it home eventually. They insist that they need the bed for real patients. I don't know what to do because I really do become critical when this happens to me and I really need a safe place away from stereos and other sensory stimulation to be able to recover but the hospital will not allow me to stay because it's not a medical issue and there is no where else at all where I can go. I even tried getting myself put into a prison solitary confinement cell but I can't make myself commit a crime just for that and they won't put me in a cell unless I am convicted of a felony which I just can't do. I also tried respite homes but it's not possible to stay in one unless you are eligible for 24 hour care. There is no where that is a safe place to recover. I feel like I can't sustain this. I am getting weaker every day.

This is going to sound really over simplistic. I promise I'm not trying to belittle your problem - it's the only idea I've got.

I gather you've tried earplugs? The stereos are too loud and just blast right through them?

Sorry I don't have better ideas. I hope things get better for you.

Is there a part of your house that is least affected by this? Can you make some sort of refuge for yourself, even if you need to move stuff around to make it work.

Please don't consider committing crime, I don't think jail would be a good place for you.

Thank you guys. My house is very small so there is nowhere to go and I have spent thousands on earplugs and muffs. I even had custom made musicians earplugs made. Nothing works. I L also have ear plugs of all sorts and muffs but they can be be very painful and even accentuate the bass sounds. So sometimes they make it worse. But I do wear them often and sometimes together even. Sometimes I try listening to nature sounds and even music with the muffs over my music earbuds.

I am on a waiting list to receive an application for the Autism waiver and the waiver will pay to put soundproof windows in my house and to do things to soundproof my car as well. But it is a four year waiting list just to get an application for the waiver. So I have to wait three and a half more years just to receive my waiver application to see if they will consider me eligible to get the waiver. Other than that there is noting i can do. I have explored every option dozens of times from every angle possible. And even if I wanted to commit a crime, other than stealing a grape at the grocery store, I don't have the heart to do that. I am just not that kind of person. I have don't even fight back when people hurt or abuse me.

Do you have much space around your house? How is your garden? Plants can be very good at damping sound, you could start growing plants around the boundary of your property, also fairly cheap to do if growing from seeds and cuttings. I know it will take some time to get established, sorry, don't know what else to suggest that won't cost a load of money.

I live in the city kind of like a row house situation. I have no yard or garden as UK people call them. My house is very small, basically a tiny living room, dining room and kitchen downstairs and a bedroom, tiny office, closet and bathroom upstairs. There is no where at all that I can be in my home where I don't hear what happens in the streets.

Same sort of location for me too, although I don't suffer anywhere near as much as you do with the sensitivity.

Often I just want to strap my camping gear on to my bicycle and ride until I can't see any other people.

I know the feeling. We used to camp a lot and I loved it. But people would come into the campgrounds and play their stereos there. Some people should not be allowed to camp. I try to find refuge in the state and county parks and in my kayak but people come to those places as well with their stereos blasting. I have talked about it to the park managers but it is very difficult to control because these are public places. And because I am frequency sensitive, it does not have to be loud for me to be affected.

I also have another problem that is wearing me down and causing me to go into overload shock. I am now being required to do too many adult things. I have to work part time but even the part time hours I have are too much for me but I can't financially afford to cut back because I am do not get any kind of disability or supplemental income. I am also responsible for all the adult responsibilities that an adult has to be responsible for. I am not able to do all of those things and they are really taking a massive toll on me and making me much more fragile and vulnerable. But because I am "high functioning," no one is able to or willing to believe me when I say that I can't do these things and no one will accept the toll that it takes on me and the damage that it does to me. So I am forced to do them and now I am ending up in the hospital every other week but because their is nothing medically wrong with me and because the doctors will not believe that I am really as affected as I am because I appear so high functioning, they refuse to give me the help that I need and am asking for and they keep kicking me out of the hospital. If I appeared lower functioning, I might have a much better chance of getting the help that I need.

I have heard people say that good noise-cancelling headphones really work, although I haven't used them myself. Maybe you could borrow/buy a pair and try them, and then return them if they aren't effective.



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Does the hospital have a psych unit?

I’ve never heard of a hospital turning someone away. If they don’t have a psych unit, they usually send you somewhere else.

Do you have a psychiatrist? They could help you with this if you feel you need an inpatient stay.

Do you have a social worker? They could help you get welfare and help with other things to make your situation better.

Responding to your last post Skibum:

Regarding work, are you getting any accommodation at all? Can you change roles or shifts to reduce stress, any chance of looking for a different job that will be less stress. Yes, I know I'm suggesting more jobs for you, I'm sorry, I know this is all obvious stuff so please excuse me, I'm sure you have considered all of this.

If you are struggling to stay organised and get stuff done on time you can try this, it's the Bullet Journal method and it does work but you do have to stick to the system, at least for the start anyway.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5hLnY9L1c-M&t=20s

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jkZEEQG6IVE

The hospital I have been going to recently does not have an actual psyche ward. There is another hospital that does. I have stayed in that psyche ward before for two days. It's not too bad. But they won't admit me unless I fit the criteria. I would have to actually be suicidal or homocidal or whatever critical condition they think I should be and I am not able to get it across how critical I really am.