Men Like a Mystery....Some Anyway

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No. That's worse than what I did!! I was just a little over affectionate.

Woah. I'll just text him and invite him out again and see if he says yes. He can only say no.

I prefer someone who can communicate and is direct. That doesn't mean I need to know everything right away, but I think if people are chasing mystery, they'd rather fall for a fantasy than get to know someone real.

No!

No I don’t like mystery

Faking tears sounds like a pretty good way to make everyone stop trusting you sooner or later, including yourself, because you'll end up not knowing what emotions are real, if any.

Part of the reason I think I blew chances with NT girls is because they were very indirect with me & I misinterpreted them. I think lots of women like guys who do the mystery thing too. I'm just too direct & straightforward for NT women to like me.

Maybe being direct is a sign of stupidity to them. I used to believe it was, so I tried to be indirect, though, of course, not in dating situations, since I've never been in anything remotely like that. I was no good at it, anyway; it was yet another of the many time-wasting and abuse-inviting behaviors I learned growing up.

I kind of think being indirect is a sign of stupidity. The stereotyped dumb blond is not know for being direct. I think people are indirect when they are unsure of something.

No, I'll just send it mind-to-mind.



You would just know as that goes through automatically mind-to-mind.



No need. You'd notice.



It will come all by itself as part of your inner voice.



Yes, but none of it requires talking.



You will get to know it anyway, and pester me until I tell you why. Nonverbally, of course. This is also part of the reason why it is so effective NOT to do this with talking. I'd be reluctant to tell somebody verbally why I'm angry, but the mind-to-mind link doesn't care if I want to tell or not. It's simply a very efficient conflict detection & resolving tool.

But notice that the way I would do this with somebody I had a mind-to-mind connection with is very different from how an NT would do it, so I couldn't handle any of it with an NT.

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Ha! I sure as hell don't want a mystery. I want someone who's direct in their interest towards me. If somebody plays hard to get I'll just assume they're not interested in me at all.

I thrive on mystery, but I hate it when somebody plays hard to get. That's just off-putting.

“Playing hard to get” is rather similar to what women do if they want to demur on direct social intercourse with a man by keeping their distance.

Rather like “the crush from afar.”

That version of it is ok.

To me this just sounds like a lazy cop out. You don't feel comfortable discussing important things so you chicken out and put it down to some airy fairy mind meld crap.

Humans aren't psychic. There is no such thing as ESP.

I don't have patience for the mystery BS. If the girl doesn't at the very least send off some signals that she is interested, I won't go forward with anything.

Also, the water works is bs. Several girls have tried doing this to me, and I have yet to fall for it.

Are you being sarcastic? I don't understand what you're saying.